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HD005 - How to establish confidence as a Dominant husband.

Follow Mr. Fox's journey from the beginning.

When Mr. Fox began his journey into Married Dominance and submission he began journaling his thoughts, challenges, and what he learned along the way.  These articles are listed in chronicle logical order to his personal journey.  Many new members have spoken of the value they have received from reading the articles as he lived them.

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Discover the articles and discussions that were the most powerful and meaningful to the husDOM team, the ambassadors, and mentors.

Mr. K Sir

Site Moderator and Chat Moderator, Discord Moderator, Calendar Support 

Top 5 meaningful posts on husDOM and what they mean to me:

  1. https://husdom.com/dominant-forums/topic/a-letter-to-babygirl/  This forum post will always be the most important thing I have read on the site, it is what brought me to husDOM.

  2. https://husdom.com/the-blindfold/. This Blog post opened my eyes to the importance of a blindfold.  I learned how a simple little thing like a blindfold can totally change a scene or playtime by boosting my confidence as a Dominant.  
  3. https://husdom.com/27-minutes-would-dominant-do/ – This article made me realize that I had to take advantage of the time I had with my sub when there were no kids around.  Before reading this if we had a short timeframe without kids in the house I would think I didn’t have time to use her how I wanted, after reading this I “Dom’d up” and now take full advantage of those moments.
  4. https://husdom.com/submrs/ – If you only read one article Mr. Fox has written, THIS should be that article.  It’s a great reminder for all of us that it is our job to lead our subMrs and relationship where we want and need it to go.
  5. https://husdom.com/pearl-necklace/ – For me this post helped me find one of my favorite toys (my favorite pervertable by far).  Since reading this I have always had a string of pearls in my toy box.

Sir Hermosa

Chat Moderator, Discord Moderator

Top 5 meaningful posts on husDOM and what they mean to me:

  1. https://husdom.com/dominant-gentleman/  This is a great viewpoint on a loving D/s marriage.  And highlights the unique aspects and differences of a dominant husband, who lives this life 24/7 forever, vs a weekend warrior Dom. 
  2. https://husdom.com/man-up/  In my mentoring journey so far on Husdom.com, his has been an extremely used, and reused theme.   One I’ve had to be reminded of often myself 🙂 Step up boys, the ball is truly in your court. 
  3. https://husdom.com/badge-of-honor/   Some doms can’t understand how their submissive like to be handled… in fact some LOVE to be handled.  My Little Peach is always so very proud of her bruises… I can still remember her smile as she turned to look at her bruised backside in the mirror the first time.   Empowered, sexy, proud.  Remember it’s not what we assume she would like/desire/need, it’s what we learn through meaningful conversation that she Actually likes/desires/needs. 
  4. https://husdom.com/talk-to-me-dominant-talk/ Seriously just talk dirty to her 😉

These two threads are from my early journey here.  My struggles, failures, successes, and the teaching and encouragement of the other gentlemen here.   Make sure you read all the comments.   There are a lot of gold nuggets to find.

https://husdom.com/groups/through-the-eyes-of-a-husdom/forum/topic/little-peach-and-hermosas-baby-steps/

And

https://husdom.com/groups/through-the-eyes-of-a-husdom/forum/topic/woes-of-a-bedroom-dynamic/ 

 
Ambassador, Chat Moderator, Discord Moderator 
 
Top 5 meaningful posts on husDOM and what they mean to me:
 
  1. https://husdom.com/downtime/ Without a doubt the most important concept in our early days of the dynamic.  We had already started something similar before we found D/s but the impact of having time to communicate openly and intentionally without judging each other is invaluable.
  2. https://husdom.com/the-blindfold/ This saved nearly all my early scenes.  Being able to take a moment to collect my thoughts or recover from a malfunction without her seeing any of my reactions was extremely helpful.
  3. https://husdom.com/dominant-and-domineering/ To me this is an incredibly important concept. Being a Dominant is so much more about how we manage ourselves so we can lead her effectively than just simply attitude or external dominance.
  4. https://husdom.com/total-power-exchange-tpe/ The power of this post for me is the final point about the Power Exchange Circle.  As we build our dynamics, finding aspects that feed both sides of the circle are so important. 
  5. https://husdom.com/ds-relationships-ebbs-and-flows/ This post helps remind us that we are each human, there will be stops and starts but constantly putting in the effort will keep moving the dynamic forward, no matter the setbacks.