~Man Up or DOM up~
I receive many emails at MrFox@husDom.com asking me for advice. A common statement from many submissive’s is “man up”‘ paraphrased of course.
While in the beginning it is imperative that the submissive nurture her Dominant husband into his dominant role it is equally important that the husband man up or DOM up. As husbands we have become reluctant to put ourselves out there, really out there, especially with our wives. Most likely because in the past, our vanilla past, we have felt emasculated during arguments or disagreements. It’s amazing how in the heat of an argument we will say things to hurt the ones that we love the most. We all know the buttons to push. Usually, these statements are to knock the other person down a notch allowing us dominance or stature above the other person. It’s about positioning. It’s about Dominance!
Your submissive has already come to you and asked for your dominance. Imagine the courage that it took for her to do that. She in essence is asking you to DOM up.
I am still in awe of LK’s courage to reveal her true desire to me. Whenever I began to have doubt or would experience trepidation regarding leaving myself vulnerable to LK I would bear in mind what my Little Kaninchen has already done and how vulnerable she has positioned herself without knowing what my reaction would be to her revelation. As a HusDom you should already know that she not only will accept your dominance she craves it.
So, “man up” or “DOM Up” !
Let your guard down. A D/s married relationship is much different than a regular single Domination and submission dynamic and even more dissimilar to a vanilla marriage. You no longer need to engage in skirmishes for dominance, a struggle for power. Yes, you will make mistakes. Yes, she will accidentally say something vanilla to challenge you or unintentionally damage your male ego. Relax, you both want the same thing and have the same goal. Keep your eye on the prize. You will find that the communication between the two of you will become more enhanced than you could have ever imagined.
HusDom, Mr. Fox
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