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Bratty SubMrs

Dealing with my Bratty submissive / subMrs can oftentimes prove to be difficult due to several factors:

  • my submissive is also my wife
  • we have young children that are still at home
  • we are in the BDSM closet to almost everyone that we know

I have learned that when my submissive, Little Kaninchen, begins to act out, she is wanting, needing, even craving my attention. She acts out in a playful manner but she is acting out none-the-less. lk is testing me as a Dominant. She is also telling me as a Dominant that she needs more attention and that she hungers for my attention, leadership, and correction.

SUBONDOMSLAPINCHAIRSSPIOPT40,Bratty subMrs, Married Dominance and submission,Dominant TrainingIf I am going to be a consistent and effective Dominant I will have to learn to serve her needs.  Too often Dominants want to serve only the low hanging needs of their submissives.  What I mean by this is that they are all into being a Dominant for easy and fun things such as being in charge and the great sex associated with Dominance and submission but when the time comes when they need to assert their Dominance, some falter and fail miserably.  This is even more difficult to manage than it may appear on the surface.  It is essential for us to rise to the occasion when we need to and also do so without being domineering.

The story below is my inspiration for the blog post. It took place just a couple of weeks ago in our home.

Bratty little kaninchen

lk and I had just gotten out of the shower and were getting ready to leave the house and grab a quick lunch. I passed by her in our great room as I was walking out of our bedroom and she headed back from the laundry room with the rest of her outfit. I suggested to her that she hurry and finish up so we would be back in time to meet our son from the school bus.

lk playfully mocked me. She knew that we didn’t have much time and probably thought, “What is he going to do about it?”

Decisive Dominant

I had a decision to make right then and there. Do I let it go, after all, she was being playful? Or do I punish her for her disrespect? Also, I am trying to figure out what response she is expecting from me. Does she want to be bent over my knee and have her ass assaulted right here, right now? I decided that as a legitimate Dominant I could not allow this to happen without acknowledgment followed by some sort of action.  She has confirmed to me several times that she takes our D/s relationship seriously and she wants more, wants to take it to the next level.

I looked at her with a devilish smile and said, “Kaninchen, I am going to have to give you a spanking for such disrespect.” As I began saying that to her she lunged toward our bedroom door with a childish giggle.

Consequences for being a Bratty submissive

As I ran her down, conveniently I caught her right beside our bed. I drug her closer to the bed as she struggled against my efforts. I bent her over the mattress at her waist and pulled her pants down around her ankles.

A month earlier I had her pick out a nice leather strap that I would use to punish her with. I ordered her to remain in that position on our bed as I turned around and retrieved the strap from our armoire. As I approached her laying over the edge of our bed I asked her to tell me why she was about to be punished.

She said quietly, “For being disrespectful, Sir”

Alas, she knew exactly what she had done and that her actions were bratty and disrespectful.  I then exclaimed that she was going to receive ten strokes with the strap that she had eloquently named, “The MotherFucker” for its no-nonsense kind of brutality. Kaninchen does like a little pain but this was a punishment, not pleasure.  Punishments are given with absolutely no warm-up.

I wondered, would this be too much. Would she protest at my reaction and punishment to her fleeting moment of brattiness?  In other words, did the punishment fit the crime?  And then of course, I wondered what would I do if she did?

I treasure my lk and certainly don’t want to cause her any harm.

Count out loud for me lk

I tell her to count the swats out loud for me……….shutterstockpdimagedomesticstrap,Bratty subMrs, Married Dominance and submission,Dominant Training

Smack! Her ass barely flinched as the leather begins to leave a nicely defined mark across both of her ass cheeks. “One”, she says.

I can tell that the strike is a struggle for her as the leather strap is no joke, especially on the unprepared skin of her ass.  I remind her to breathe…

After the fourth strike, I can see her breathing settle into the rhythm with my strokes and she is practically moaning as she continues to count off the swats for me.

“eight, nine, TEN”


After I had finished all ten of the strokes I put the leather strap back in the armoire where it belonged and grabbed the Arnicare from the top shelf.  I then turned back around facing lk’s now very red bottom.  lk received her discipline and now she required aftercare.

As I approached her I spoke in a soft gentle voice as I reminded her why I had punished her.  I cracked the lid open on the Arnicare tube and squeezed some in my hand.  As I gently rubbed the ointment into her beaten skin, I could literally feel the searing heat coming from her red hot ass.

I held lk in my arms for the next few minutes with no words spoken.  Finally, using just my hand this time, I gave her a soft swat on her still beautifully red ass and told her that she really needed to hurry now.

She reached down to the floor grabbing her pants and pulled them back up around her waist.  She walked over to the full-length dressing mirror to straighten her disheveled clothes and make herself look like she hadn’t just been spanked by her Dominant husband.

As I began to leave the room, out of the corner of my eye I saw her stick her tongue out at me in the mirror.

Dominance is about Consistency

I immediately turned back around and confronted her about her disrespect. She of course denied that she had done anything at all.

lk and I  have written rules and one of those rules is that she is to answer all of my questions without hesitation and with complete honesty.

I asked her again and reminded her of our rule and that she must obey them. She began to speak and then hesitated. With her hesitation, I knew instantly that what I thought I saw her do, I did in fact see her do.

Instinctive Dominance

I drug her over to the bed again, bending her at the waist and ripping her pants down to her ankles again not saying a word. She began a nervous giggle as she struggled. She doesn’t normally struggle or giggle. When her pants dropped to the floor, her beautiful ass was already a swollen bright pink color from the strapping just minutes earlier.

I began to spank her bright red ass quickly and hard. She continued to struggle with me and never stopped her giggle. I pinned both of her hands behind her back and faced away from our bed kneeling over top of her. My back was toward her head and I had both of her hands pinned with my legs so she couldn’t cover up from the onslaught of spankings.

Her already sensitive ass was receiving a veracious spanking.

I was no longer concerned about the time and us being late or what I thought she really wanted or didn’t want. I was doing what felt natural for me at the moment.

Sexual Dominance

When I was sure that her ass could take no more of my assault, I climbed off of her back and positioned myself behind her. I firmly placed one hand on her back just below her neckline and between her shoulder blades and held her to the mattress. Without warning, I shoved my cock deep into her. I pushed it all of the way in her with one hard stroke and stopped.

Kaninchen quit breathing for a minute.

I had caught her by surprise not only by the assault on her ass but now by taking her hard and fast without warning. Her next breath was a low moan as her sex began to stretch around my still cock. She was already in sub-space from the spanking. With my cock still buried deep inside of her I grabbed the back of her hair and pulled her face off of the mattress and said sternly, “Kaninchen, don’t you dare cum! You are mine and I am going to do as I please.”

You are mine

With my hand still grasping her by her hair, I forced her head back on the mattress and began to fuck her as hard as I could. It was if she was in a trance, she made no effort to resist me. Her entire body was quivering from sensory overload. Her moaning was completely involuntary. She looked like she would explode at any second. I smacked her ass as hard as I could and reminded her that she had better not cum, that she was mine and I would do as I pleased.

My command had no effect whatsoever, she was deep in her sub-space. I could feel my own self-control begin to weaken. I bent down and bit her on the back of her neck as I came deep inside her.

As I pulled out of her as quickly as I took her, I smacked her on her sensitive red ass again and told her to finish getting ready, we were running late.

As I was leaving the room I dared her to try me again. She walked over to me, kissed me on the cheek, and thanked me. She said that she was, in fact, wondering what I was going to do about it and appreciated what I had done.

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