Recently someone had written me an email and referenced a TPE or Total Power Exchange relationship. HusDOM™ is not written through the eyes of a Master but rather through the eyes of a Dominant husband. I am sharing my journey into the D/s-M lifestyle to help others navigate their own journeys more easily. There are several terms within the BDSM community that I feel, have specific meanings, and are all too often incorrectly interchanged. Total Power Exchange is one of those terms.
The Total Power Exchange (TPE) is when one of the partners gives up total power and control to the other partner. A Total Power Exchange is also sometimes referred to as an Absolute Power Exchange or Consensual Slavery.
Total Power Exchange (TPE)
A Total Power Exchange means that you have given up complete control to another person.
Along with this control, you have also surrendered all of your rights as a person. The submissive is truly considered the other person’s property.
You are not just the Dominant’s submissive any longer, you are now the Dominant’s slave, consensual slavery. This type of commitment requires absolute and unconditional surrender.
The slave’s limits are not set by her in a TPE dynamic, rather they are set by her master. Think about that for a minute. A slave has no limits. Her limits are whatever her Master desires. A slave’s master has total control over her. A slave doesn’t have the luxury to set her own hard and soft limits, a slave’s limits are set by her master. Again, a slave’s limits are whatever her Master desires. Safewords are not afforded to a slave.
In a true TPE relationship, a slave has given up or “exchanged” her rights, all of her rights. These surrendered rights are exchanged for the protection and care of her Master. The Master no longer requires the slave’s consent for anything.
Kaninchen and I do not have a Total Power Exchange relationship. Little Kaninchen is not my slave but rather my submissive. As a husDOM™ I do not own her and her submission, I am continually working toward and earning her submission every day.
Power Exchange Circle
Our power exchange would best be described by the Power Exchange Circle, D/s-M Circle, that Kaninchen and I have created in order to articulate our exchange. lk has chosen me to be the leader of our relationship and has gifted her submission to me and in turn, I offer her my dominance. By doing this we continue to feed one another’s mind, body, and soul.
Though I am her Dominant and she is my submissive, she can withdraw her submission at any time, which in turn would emasculate my dominance. I do not own her as then she would be a slave. This D/s-M circle is what keeps us both actively engaged and encourages us both to continue growing in our D/s-M lifestyle.
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