Dominant Training |Thoughtful Thursday

Dominant Training |Thoughtful Thursday

Welcome to my new post category, Thoughtful Thursday!

My Little Kaninchen has been writing posts categorized as “Mindful Mondays” for several weeks. The philosophy behind the category is that a D/s relationship requires continuous effort, quite true for any relationship I suspect. Life, children, career, and many other factors play an important role in why many of us become distracted from our D/s relationships.

LK’s “Mindful Mondays” have rapidly become a resourceful tool for submissives to work on and maintain their submissiveness on a regular basis. In fact, the success of her weekly posts, accompanied by her suggestion, has lead me to begin a series of my own called, “Thoughtful Thursdays”.

The Dominant is the leader. As the Dominant you must maintain consistency and growth throughout your entire journey. Consistency is one of the most significant qualities that you will need to maintain for a smooth ride during all phases of flight. The responsibility of consistency and growth lands squarely on the shoulders of the Dominant.Dominant Training |Thoughtful Thursday

Inconsistency by the Dominant throughout their journey undermines the relationship and will leave the submissive feeling alone and lost. Instead of providing your submissive with a feeling of safety and security, you will leave her feeling unwanted and vulnerable, as though you really dont care about her and her needs. She may even begin to feel as though you are not really into the new lifestyle and begin to withdraw herself. All of these feelings can send your submissive spiraling into the abyss.

Thoughtful Thursdays are going to be a reminder for you as a Dominant, to let your submissive know that you are engaged and in control, that she really is the most important thing in your life and that her submission that she grants to you is cherished and desired by you.

As much as I will try, not all of my posts will be something that everyone can relate to their personal journeys. However, the post alone should remind everyone to do something special for their submissive that week and let them know that you treasure their submission.

Look for my new posts to begin this Thursday.

Best Wishes,

Mr. Fox

 

Dominant Training |Thoughtful Thursday

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18 Comments
  1. emerging dom 6 years ago

    good thoughts on both the mindfulness and consistency.

    • Author

      Emerging Dom,

      It is imperative for our longevity as Dom’s to regularly bestow upon our submissives our thoughtfulness and appreciation. Most of us have found our D/s but a long-term healthy D/s relationship takes focus and attention.

      Your comment is much appreciated.

      Best Wishes,

      Mr. Fox

  2. Little Kaninchen 6 years ago

    Sir, Summer was a struggle but you always kept the atmosphere buzzing around me…
    Or was that the leather strap I kept hearing? lol! Anyway, I cant wait to read all those great ideas rolling around in your head… I guess, that begs the question, Am I allowed to read Thoughtful Thursday?

    All My Submission,
    LK

    • Author

      Little Kaninchen,

      Oh how I love to find bunny tracks at my place…

      I have been giving this some thought as well. I have decided that you may. I may not implement the same idea for you as my Thoughtful Thursday post. Furthermore, I may show you that I a thinking of you long before Thursday. You could say that you may be getting the gouge, so to speak.

      Love you madly,

      Mr. Fox

  3. Subrina 6 years ago

    Thank Mr. Fox for this. I love the concept and am looking forward to your posts. I am going to pass this onto my hubby!

    Subrina <3

    • Author

      Subrina,

      Welcome back!

      I hope that all has been well for you over the summer. It has been crazy for LK and myself!

      I look forward to your husband reading my blog. Maybe, he will comment too…

      Respectfully,

      Mr. Fox

      • Subrina 6 years ago

        Mr. Fox!

        I sent the link to hubby and he has subscribed. Not sure on the commenting…but ya never know!!

        Thanks for sharing your knowledge and journey!

        Subrina <3

  4. Sirslittlebutterfly 6 years ago

    Will be looking forward to passing on your Thursday posts to my Sir. Thank you!!!

  5. sweetnessavp 6 years ago

    I’m so glad my sir is following your blog.. Your emails with him has opened up a whole side of him that I missed for so long!!! I can’t wait to see what your Thursday posts are going to do!!! Thank you!! We are off to a great start and hope to continue with leaps and bounds!!

    • Author

      Sweetness,

      I am overjoyed that your husDom is following my blog as well. Your Sir is a wonderful man and I have enjoyed our correspondence equally as much I assure you.

      I have not heard from him since your weekend alone and I am waiting patiently to learn how it went.

      From what I understand the two of you are in fact off to a great start!

      I look forward to watching the two of you soar…

      Regards,

      Mr. Fox

  6. DOM_Fred 6 years ago

    I’m looking forward to reading these as they come out. I’m sure there will be good information for the novice and experienced alike.

  7. obeyme15 6 years ago

    You and your delightful sub share with us so much insight its a pleasure to follow and learn with you. Thank you so much

    • Author

      Obey Me 15,

      LK and I discover and learn everyday and it is an honor to share our journey so that others can learn and grow along with us.

      We both feel that, we too, have found an exceptional group of people that we can learn from as well.

      Sincerely,

      Mr. Fox

  8. Kenzie 6 years ago

    Nice post! Looking forward to reading your new Thoughtful Thursday posts!

  9. LawdogDom 3 years ago

    Mr Fox,

    As i go through the historical blogs (as recommended for any newbie–rightly so!), I am trying not to post on every page. However, I cannot underscore the importance of knowing that you have made this journey, and how you made it. The following particularly resonated with me:

    “Inconsistency by the Dominant throughout their journey undermines the relationship and will leave the submissive feeling alone and lost. Instead of providing your submissive with a feeling of safety and security, you will leave her feeling unwanted and vulnerable, as though you really dont care about her and her needs. She may even begin to feel as though you are not really into the new lifestyle and begin to withdraw herself. All of these feelings can send your submissive spiraling into the abyss.”
    — So unbeknownst to me, I was in a D/s relationship and failing miserably at it. My sub was not getting the leader and safety she craved due to a lot of my own insecurities (throw in some depression and alcohol abuse issues to do further damage to my self) that were then magnified by her frustrations, hurt, fear and withdrawal. It was a vicious cycle over the past 12 years. I can now see how much my actions and in-actions contributed to where we are.

    “Thoughtful Thursdays are going to be a reminder for you as a Dominant, to let your submissive know that you are engaged and in control, that she really is the most important thing in your life and that her submission that she grants to you is cherished and desired by you. ”
    — I failed to appreciate her vulnerability, her willingness to love me in the way that a sub wants to– I did not understand what that meant, or how I needed to respond. I had the feeling of not being worthy; I was not far off. But I was not worthy because of some fickle or judgmental thing like I supposed…. I was unworthy because I was not leading with calm, consistent, effort that made her feel important. After being in this community for the past few days, I am confirming why she feels like there is no hope for us but for her to move on. Yet, I also feel even more strongly now that by working on me and becoming a better man, a better dominant for her submissive nature, I can become the husDom she needs. I know she is the subMrs I have been needing without having the understanding of what I truly needed.

    Again thank you for sharing your journey in such a positive, loving way. You give me hope and aspiration.

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