Submissive vs Slave | Dominant Training

Submissive vs. Slave | Dominant Training

Submissive vs. Slave | Dominant Training

The term slave makes a lot of newer husDoms quite uneasy, myself included.  As my journey progressed I began to realize that the term slave in the BDSM community can be, and often is, defined differently by many people.  It may be beneficial to the contemporary husDOM if the differences were identified and discussed from the perspective of husDOM.


Everyone has their own definition of the word slave, most of which, rightfully so, are not good. When we hear the word ‘slave’ most people envision a person or individual that is owned by another person and who is being forced to serve that person against their will.  In general most people would agree that this type of slavery is abominable.  Submissive vs Slave | Dominant Training

There are some notable differences between this type of slavery and slavery in the BDSM community. Probably the most significant difference is that the slave in the BDSM community is not a slave against their will, they have submitted to their Master willfully. With this submission they have given themselves to be owned and cared for by another.  And in today’s society, since slavery is not legal in almost every corner of the world the slave is not legally owned by their Master and has the power to leave at any time.  This BDSM slavery is often referred to as consensual slavery.

Consensual Slavery

A slave in a consensual slavery relationship has given up all of their rights and privileges to their Master. The slave is now the property of another, metaphorically speaking. The slave does not set their own limits, hard or soft; those limits are set by their Master. In other words, the slave is not afforded the right to have any definitive input as to her comfort level or limits.

A slave in a consensual slavery relationship is not provided the luxury of a safe word. The slave is completely at the mercy of her Master’s judgment relying solely on his intuition and instinct.

In fact, the Master does not require the consent of the slave for anything.  They have complete power and control over all aspects of the slave’s life.  A slave should be extra vigilant before surrendering to a Master.

If a slave and their Master were attending a party and the Master ordered his slave to crawl over to another Master on her hands and knees and orally pleasure him, the slave would without hesitation.  She has surrendered all of her rights to her Master and is now considered his property to do with as he pleases.


A submissive, on the other hand, does retain some key responsibilities in a D/s relationship.  The submissive, unlike the slave, has the right to set and alter her limits.  This allows the submissive the ability to help set the basic boundaries of the D/s relationship.  The submissive will also be given a safe word to use in the event that she would require everything to slow down or stop altogether.

The rules that I have structured for my LK and myself allow her to have a voice and be heard anytime she desires.  The rules that we agreed to ensure that she communicates with respect.  And if I am who or what I say that I am, I will be communicating with respect as well.



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  1. Thank you for posting this. It will help so many newbies … Subs & Doms have a better understanding of their wants and needs in a D/s or M/s lifestyle.
    LK ❤

  2. HusDom,

    After several readings of your posts as well as LK’s, I’m noticing that IN DUE TIME you will thoroughly KNOW littlekaninchen to a depth that sometimes doesn’t require words or commands. A Master/slave relationship? Hmmm.

    When you know someone so unimaginably deep like that, is it any wonder when your beloved slave gladly hands over to you her “life”? Which also begs the obvious question by the public (vanilla) world: That is disgusting and dehumanizing her…and by that they show their utter ignorance of the ‘work’ that has already been done between them. It’s alien.

    Hence, when you and your bottom/submissive (slave?) reach those taboo points, hesitations seem quite unfamiliar, huh?

    You’re becoming a superb diplomat for our lifestyle HusDom. *tips his hat*

  3. Professor Taboo,

    LK and I had been married for over twenty years before we began our journey into the D/s lifestyle. As I look back, I really didn’t know her at all. Sure I knew her favorite color and her favorite movie and things of that nature but I didn’t really know her inner most thoughts and feelings. Today, I am just beginning to truly understand LK and recognize her her needs and desires without a word being spoken. It will be a while still before I thoroughly KNOW her. I am excited to know my LK as well as she knows herself, maybe even better.

    The tipping of the hat is greatly appreciated. When it comes from you it is kindred to a standing ovation for me.

    Mr. Fox

      1. Caoch2Dom,

        I’m glad that it resonated with you.

        I look forward to hearing more from you in the future.

        Have a great Holiday.

        Mr. Fox

  4. Excellent blog! My beautiful and I don’t have any issues with the word but I can understand why many do.

    I will concur with many others and just say that I appreciate the varied subjects that you talk about and the honesty that you and LK share with us all.

    1. Master Grey,

      Lk and I appreciate the accolades and thank you for reading!

      Best wishes,

      Mr Fox

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