Moving Past submissive Nerves:
Original Member’s Message
Mr. Fox,I hope this email finds you well. Things here seem to be going great, however last night went a little off.“I had planned a heavy play session, which is mostly what we do right now, and she was very excited. But, as the night progressed she was getting to feeling worse and worse. Being concerned, I asked if she was ok, and if she needed the night off. I have been getting what I want, so a night off was no big deal. She kept saying she was fine.”“As we were preparing she asked if it was ok to just go to sleep. I was expecting this, as she was heading downhill. “ok”, I said, but my face and tone of voice said otherwise.I got into bed as she was checking on our little boy, and she came in crying.I asked why, and she said becsuse I was pissed. Now here’s the revelation…..in the past she would have gotten pissed back.” (**This is your clue that this is nerves and her crying not wanting to disappoint you. She is scared.)“I pulled her to me, with her head in my chest (her submissive position) and explained that I was upset over the last minute change, nothing more. I let her settle down.We then started to watch tv. She said she doesn’t want me to be mad at her.I looked at her and said, “You really ARE giving all of yourself to me, aren’t you?” She proceeded to cry again. I held her again, saying, “my arms are your comfort, and your strength, don’t fight it, you can let go with me.” She said she was going to keep crying if I keep being so sweet and strong.”(** Sweet and strong is a good thing, but try to get her talking and relaxing and move forward with your scene.)“I apologize if I rambled a bit. Do you think I handled it ok? How do I build on this?Keep in mind, we haven’t added rules and punishments yet.”“Anonymous Member”
Through the Eyes of a Dominant.
with Mr. Fox and Little Kaninchen