This weeks WOW question should make you think more about your dynamic and what is important to you in your relationship then the previous questions. Remember for these scenarios your choice would be one or the other, not substitutions, and would be forever.
Would you rather 1. Have a D/s dynamic marriage that was outside the bedroom and strictly “vanilla” in the bedroom or 2. Have a “normal” marriage outside the bedroom and all the kinky D/s in the bedroom?
Mr. K sir
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With much reluctance I think I would have to pick 1. Have a D/s dynamic marriage that was outside the bedroom and strictly “vanilla” in the bedroom as the connection between Vixen and myself is so much better with a D/s-m dynamic that is 24/7. We have been bedroom only before and while it was very good as well, the connection being 24/7 is soo much better.
I would miss the incredible bedroom times immensely, but the “vanilla” in the bedroom would still be better than the combination of vanilla inside and outside of the bedroom would be on all aspects of our relationship.
My answer is number 1. Even if our relationship with my kitty was strictly “vanilla” inside the bedroom, that would not affect the how good of a time we have in there. But if considering the amount of time we have spent together and how it affected our 24/7 dynamic by treating it as “vanilla” at some aspects… yeah… that would be terrible. I don’t think that it would do us any good at all and it would not satisfy any of us and our needs of each other.
For myself I am going to go with answer #1. D|s-M is the core of the relationship for lk and myself. During our journey I have learned so much about lk, as well as about myself. Sure some of that learning and development has taken place in the bedroom but the majority of it has taken place with me as a man. We now have the framework to better understand one another and to communicate on an entirely new level. We have very clear expectations of one another and the tools to manage any difficult times.
I would miss the bedroom dearly but it in too defines myself, lk or our marriage…
I would have to choose 1. The D/s is the heart of our relationship. It is what truly feeds us both. If I ever doubted that, this past month was a good reminder. We both contracted Covid. Thankfully for us it was a mild case but definitely did not allow for bedroom activity. However, it did not impact the D/s. We just temporarily modified a couple of rituals.
I would also have to choose #1 here, no question. We do have lots of kinky fun in the bedroom, but many of our nights are vanilla though often with a twist. The biggest changes in our marriage since starting D/s have been outside the bedroom and the level of openness and removal of friction that has occurred cannot have a value placed on it.
Most of my minx’s submission is outside the bedroom, of course it carries to the bedroom but she is most fed when I lead well out of the bedroom and when she can be my capable co-pilot when I am not around and then rest and follow when I am.