- January 19, 2019 at 5:50 am #72143SirParticipantPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
Greetings all – whether reading this intro while it’s fresh and new, or as an old post, lost in the haze of time.
Ironically, I’ve signed on to husDOM simply as Sir, as I found the site while researching, “What do Doms call themselves?” I was trying to decide if I was going to find/create a name beyond Sir, to be included in the Contract that my wife and I were drawing up. Only a few weeks ago, it wasn’t so formal.
Over the years…coming up on 23 this summer…we have incorporated various other tangents to D/s into our lifestyle. Things like “any time” and “unbridled passion”, as well as other kinks here and there. We’d had BDSM scenes, even a few “adult” weekends away. We had already come up with personas for our scenes, Sir and Kitten, characters we would don to suit our play. We had the thought for our most recent such weekend, “Rather than have one or two scenes over the weekend, could we take our scenes and expand them over the whole trip?” For a handful of nights and days…away from home and anything familiar, or anyone to whom we could be recognizable…could we pretend that we were actually living 24/7?
Of course it was a great time, and we came away wanting to continue that, in some way, once we were home again. Not a TPE, nor a strict 24/7 D/s, of course…no, no, no. After all, we’re parents and we have plenty of real life to deal with…that couldn’t be us. However, as we were both digging into this most recent exploration of our relationship, it evolved from being a piece, from being parts, to something more encompassing than that. In the end, Kitten decided she wanted to not only add these aspects in, but to formalize their inclusion…thus, a Contract. As we started discussing taking it further, this expansion from “bits and pieces” to the “full deal” led to more research and more digging. Format, checklists, hard and soft limits…names. Being thorough, complete, making sure both of our needs, and our desires, were clearly laid out and respected. Eventually, I ended up on husDOM…exploring, reading, joining, reading some more…and writing something about it all.
Aside from that last bit…all of this was required, to go forward.
And in our relationship, Kitten and I have always worked hard to go forward.
- January 19, 2019 at 3:12 pm #72146Sir OTW | AMBParticipantPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
Welcome to husDOM, I hope you find this community to be helpful is my Minx and I have. We also have kids and plenty of real life but have found many ways to incorporate power exchange and living this way in all parts of our life. Yes, our kids occassionaly will say “Yes, Sir” instead of “Yes, Dad” from time to time, and even “Yes Ma’am” to minx neither of which we mind. Other than that, they know they have a Mommy and Daddy who love each other very much and other see a couple who are very close and aware of each other.
I look forward to getting to meet you in the chat and hear how your relationship continues to move forward. That is another aspect of the community that I love, there is a constant focus on how we can be the best man and leader we can be for our subs, our family, and others in our lives.
- January 29, 2019 at 9:54 pm #72248Mr. Fox | Founder D/s-MKeymasterPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
What a wonderful story you and your kitten have created along the way. It sounds as though you both have taken the time to construct a sound foundation on which to build your dynamic. I look forward to watching the two of you grow within the community.
- January 29, 2019 at 10:04 pm #72249Mr. K sirParticipantPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
Welcome to husDom. You will find that a lot of us here have gone through similar starts. Kids do make it a little more challenging but it is manageable. Remember to make your dynamic YOUR dynamic, what works for me may not work for you so take any advice you get and use what you can and leave the rest. I look forward to chatting with you sometime.
Mr. K sir
- January 30, 2019 at 1:39 am #72254Sir Hermosa | AMBParticipantPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
3 kids here too Sir!
Most of us know how that feels.
Mine are all under 8 and cause umpteen problems for playtime and D/s, but with our new dynamic unfolding similar to the way yours sounds, I’d love to chat sometime.
I’m on most days. Feel free to hit me up.
- February 1, 2019 at 8:41 pm #72286Buck/AMBParticipantPremium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™
Welcome to husDom Sir,
It sounds like you and your kitten have had fun getting to this point. I look forward to seeing you on the chats. Please check out the calendar and see what is coming up during the month.
I like the statement that you made “Being thorough, complete, making sure both of our needs, and our desirers were clearly laid out and respected” Very good words and ideas to live by.
Enjoy your journey
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