I’ve been interested in becoming a HusDom for some time now and have read quite a bit (thank you Mr. Fox and LK for the resources you have provided!) After some consideration I decided that I was not yet ready to be a Dom – I needed to be a better master of myself before leading someone else. So the last few months have involved becoming more the man that I want to be so that I could lead into becoming the Dom that I want to be.
My wife and I have been married for ~5.5 years now, and dated for 2 before that. She is a natural submissive – gleefully following along where I lead, looking to me for guidance, and delighted by the games/puzzles that I create for her. (I have not yet decided, but will be calling her Little Mymble for now.) She has expressed that she gets frustrated when I don’t take care of big things (car repairs, reigning in finances, etc).
I don’t believe that she would like the idea of formally being a submissive. I fear that she would have a negative view of the terms and would immediately be turned off. To sort of bypass this, I am slowly leading into HusDom/SubWife without actually mentioning it – introducing it in ways that she is comfortable with and enjoys, then checking in afterward for feedback.
So far the journey has been slow but rewarding. Our relationship is growing stronger, I am learning more about the wonderful, beautiful creature that is my LM, and I am becoming more the man that she encourages me to be.
You are most welcome for the resources… We enjoy it when others find them useful.
You are so right when you discuss being able to master yourself before being able to realistically master another, very wise…
Some of the terms associated with D/s can and often do leave a negative impression on the vanilla persons mind. D/s is about the journey, loving and worshiping one another, not the terms used within it.
Slow is definitely the recommended speed for the journey, slow and steady!
I really like your last two sentences, the sum it up nicley…
Mr. Fox, I definitely agree that D/s is “about the journey, loving and worshiping one another”! That’s the part that I’m interested in. Ties and spankings and toys are just a means of expression.
Just yesterday at lunch LM told me that she feels like she’s needier than I am, and why do I put up with her (and what can she do for me). I just smiled and told her that I’m just as needy as her, but I needed someone to take care of.