Hello Mr. Fox and everyone else! First and foremost…let me just say Thank you to Mr. Fox for putting together a place where we can all come to learn and share! The info that is shared on this site is priceless!
Now a little about myself and my Sweetness! My Sweetness and I have been on this journey for a few months and are very excited to see where it will take us and what it will bring! So far the few things that I have learned are…1) It takes work to be a good Dom…and 2) There will be moments of “vanilla” but we just have to work through them!
My Sweetness is following LK’s blog and has been an integral part of this journey. When she first came to me I was like…uh, ok! You want to do what? But..oh how things have changed and progressed! It is definitely a work in progress but it is so worth the time and effort!
I look forward to the opportunity of sharing and learning along with everyone else! Have a great day!
Thank you for the praise and kind words. Expanding this website into a community could become such a wonderful resource for other new husDOMs.
I thank you and everyone else for taking the time “Pay it forward!”
With the help of the ones that I have touched we can touch many.
“In the order of nature we cannot render benefits to those from whom we receive them, or only seldom. But the benefit we receive must be rendered again, line for line, deed for deed, cent for cent, to somebody.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Your Sweetness has truly touched my LK’s heart as well…
Welcome Mr. B. I have met your sweetness on LKs chat, she has become fast friends with my sotto. I definitely agree that it takes a lot of work to be a good Dom, more so that I initially thought especially if it’s a 24/7 thing. I feel like there are a lot of guys out there who jump at the idea of living out every sexual fantasy they’ve ever had because they can, but then tend to shy away when they realize every decision is in their hands, or they actually have to listen when their sub explains her needs. When we first started “Vanilla” arguments would pop up but over time we have both learned to avoid engaging in them more, not to say it never happens, but it happens less as time goes on. I look forward to sharing ideas and posting with you on the forum. I also found it interesting that Mr. Fox used a Ralph Waldo Emerson quote as my favorite quote of all time is by Emerson. The guy was the leader of the Transcendentalist movement and if I was alive during that time I would likely have been all for the Movement he and Henry David Thoreau created. ANyhow I feel that the quote applies pretty well to the things I just talked about…
“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better for worse as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
It’s the envy is ignorance and imitation is suicide part that I love so much. I agree we all need to learn from others especially in this lifestyle it’s helpful to have a support network of other men in our position, but eventually we will all spread our wings, “grow into our Dom” and make this dynamic our own. The second part of the quote works as well, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. To get the nourishment or in the context of this the submission or the ability to live out any sexual fantasy as she submits her body, you must first toil plant the seeds, train , be consistent, communicate, etc. The work is tough my friends but that nourishing reward makes all the toil well worth it.