Hello HusDom Community,
I am Mr. Saunders and have enjoyed this site since I came across it last week. My Mrs. And I have always had some aspects of kink in our play. We met in high school chorus and were tying each other up back then. We went our separate ways but kept in touch. We got back together in our mid-twenties and she has given me two wonderful children.
One of her favorite movies is the Secretary and enjoys D/s role play. She submitted to me about two years into our relationship and we have been slowly learning. It was not something I would have encouraged in previous relationships.
It is something that we have tried out and set aside over the years. Most of the attempts over the years have not come from the right mind set on my part and I’ve set it aside but we keep circling back to it. It was more from a “favor for my wife” and it put too much “think in my kink”. We have been to a few fetish fairs over the years. There is one every year on my birthday and to think back it did reinforce that feeling.
We went to a different fair during the summer and I enjoyed it much more, and even took a bull whip class. That worked for both of us and helped put me in a better mindset. This time around, I am determined not to be a lazy Dominant for my little Lady. I’ve started to do some active research and it has been helpful.
Thank you all for putting yourselves out there.
Welcome to HusDOM. I’m sure you’ll find a great deal of useful information here, as I have. It seems you’re concerned that living D/s hasn’t quite worked out for you and your Mrs. in the past. But, the fact that you have both come back to it time and again speaks volumes. It is obvious that it is something you both desire. That being the case, you’re definitely on the right path. Transitioning from vanilla to D/s is no small feat. Many things must change for it to be successful. So long as you keep the lines of communication open, you can achieve your goals.
Living D/s 24-7 can be quite difficult with children on board. My lady and I have it a bit easier in this respect. We do have 3 children still at home. But, they are all teens and so we have a decent amount of time to ourselves. Also, the bits they do see, such as the use of titles, they understand. We explained to them that we are fixing our marriage and bringing back the love through a deeper respect and appreciation of each other. So, of course, they understand that piece of it. Everything else is done out of their line of sight.
Best of luck to you and your wife. I hope you find this journey as fulfilling and rewarding as my lady and I have.