Hi all, I’m a Canadian expat in the US. I’ve been married to my Hong Kong beauty for two years. Dom life is something I’ve been aware of for a long time and would love to put into play. My wife’s sub side shines through frequently so I’m all but positive that she will react at least moderately well if I propose some of it.
For complicated non-relationship reasons, we’re apart for a month right now and I’m taking the opportunity to request “homework” from her, in the form of interval tasks (text me ___ every hour on the hour) and selfie tasks (send me a selfie from a certain place). Next week I’ll ask her to be my alarm clock for a couple days. I am proud to say that she has risen to the challenge so far, even without knowing my motivation – or maybe it’s because of that?? Ha.
I’ve done considerable reading and thinking so far, to plan the good and anticipate the bad. I recognize the value of incremental stages over months, as well as honesty and respect for boundaries and
What is the typical user’s primary use of this site, is it the chat, the forums, or the blog posts?
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Good Morning Tar and welcome to HusDom!
Great introduction and very relatable to a number of doms on the site…you will find many of us travel or find ourselves away from our beloveds which can strain the dynamic – thankfully there is a lot of good advice and suggestions on how we all manage that which i believe you will find helpful.
In regards to how everyone uses the site – great question – it’s different for everyone as what everyone may be looking for in their dynamic or the place where they are at in their dynamic varies but i will offer he following suggestions…
1. Start at the beginning to level set where everyone grounds themselves on the vision / guidance from the experience of Mr. Fox and others – Where to Begin tab at the top of the page…it is wonderfully written and i also like to read the comments as additional advice and guidance is provided in those areas from Mr. Fox and the community.
2. Hit the blogs – these are personal stories, advice, inspirations, etc. from Mr. Fox – again, read the comments as the advice continues in many of those topics.
3. Chats – though they can seem intimidating at first it really is a brilliant way to connect, learn, ask questions, and build a sense of community. Everyone is incredibly respectful and JUST LIKE YOU!
4. Eventually make your way to the forums – it is good to ground out on the blogs and articles from the Fox and when you feel comfortable head over to the Forums…the topics are wide ranging, great reads, etc. but if you aren’t overly familiar with some of the D/s-M basics it may get overwhelming…
Hope that helps and a warm welcome to the community!
All the best
You have authored a great introduction sir. Mr G8tr has given some sound advice on how to best utilize the community. There are members on husDOM from all over the world and from various backgrounds.
My advice for success would be to participate. Participation on husDOM will keep you active and it will keep you engaged in your own dynamic. You will learn much about yourself while learning about others.
First off welcome to husdom
Mr. G8tr and Mr. Fox have both given you great advice so I would like to just say don’t be a stranger if you have any questions feel free to ask the members here are a wide variety of great people who want nothing more then to learn and help others. The resources are vast and it’s a great place to get to know like minded people safely.