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  • Posted by Spear on 12/06/2020 at 5:01 pm

    Thanks for having me, i think one of my favorite parts of the bdsm world is the community that comes with it. I enjoy learning and appreciate people taking time out of their lives to put information out there for others to learn from. Prior to covid my wife and I would always google the upcoming sex shows and hit up the big city for a weekend away from the kids to go and learn and take in the sights. Being from a small town and raised on a farm I didn’t exactly learn about this lifestyle through my peers. My wife and I have been together over twenty years, have three kids and have always had a fruitful sex life. Through trust and I guess kink we eventually made our way into a world actually known as a ‘lifestyle’ and not just labeled as a wild weekend and we were both hooked. Since then it’s been the basis of conversation for prob every roadtrip we take together. We enjoy the tabooness of the lifestyle and how it keeps the spark alive and a relationship prospering. I truly appreciate being able to join in on a place like this, I hope to expand on what my wife and I have and thank-you again for having us.

    Spear replied 1 year, 9 months ago 4 Members · 5 Replies
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  • Fade

    12/06/2020 at 7:51 pm

    Pleasure getting to meet you. I have also been excited at the prospect of a community in which you can speak candidly about these things, as I never have been able to before. I like the road trips out of town for a weekend. Luckily since its just my wife and I for now we have no need to do this, but it seems like it would add a whole new element to the interaction.

    • Spear

      12/06/2020 at 8:18 pm

      The roadtrips have been a bit of a tradition that started with us many years ago. Gives us time for just one another and to really enjoy some time to just date eachother I guess. Go out for dinner, bottle of wine yada yada yada but it keeps us feeling connected. We live busy lives and I find there is always a reason not to go but I’m the type of guy who looks for that one reason why we should go. She loves it and so do I and at the end of the night when my little black suitcase opens up she’s always excited to see which toys I brought and what kind of a night she is in for.

  • sir-hermosa-amb

    12/07/2020 at 7:45 am

    Welcome sir!

    There are many of us here that have had kinky relationships before we started D/s… I like the forethought you have for your weekends with her. Make sure that you’re putting the same effort into listening, and learning her more. Communication is key!


    12/09/2020 at 10:53 am

    Welcome to husDOM @Spear,

    Sounds like you guys have lots of fun on those trips. How do those trips fuel your lifestyle during the day to day? Do you have an ongoing D/s relationship?

    • Spear

      12/09/2020 at 11:09 am

      Yes we do and have been building on it for a few years now. 2020 was a mixed bag for us, went through alot with my wife this year. The D/s relationship wasn’t pushed to the side but was not your typical lifestyle. The fun and excitement and raw sex and compassion unfortunately wasn’t what we needed. We went through some very dark times but with time and alot of personal growth and even more support for one another we were able to overcome out obstacles together and really focus in on ourselves to the point where it was life-changing in many ways. We are through the woods now, with more knowledge and a deeper appreciation for what the lifestyle really can offer. Life is back to being fun and exciting so we are focused heavily on that but with a healthy helping of personal growth on the side.