My name is Foxyrox, age 52, and I’ve been happily married to Miss Vixen for 17 years.
My Miss Vixen is the one who has expressed her desire to submit. To be honest, I’m not so sure – so we are exploring this lifestyle and looking to see where it can take us.
Any help/pointers/advice will be most welcome.
What about the lifestyle has you unsure? There were many things that I myself had to work through in order to be alright with certain aspects of the lifestyle. If you read some of my earlier blog posts they were me trying to come to terms with certain prejudices that I may have had. In some circumstances I simply rewrote or created what I felt was who I wanted to be as a Dominant. That is actually how the blog began. It was simply me finding my way along my personal journey.
Your, not sure or skeptical attitude makes me believe that you are truly a loving and caring Dominant. You are not just jumping at the idea of controlling your wife. Figure out what it is that turns troubles you and change it, make it something that you do like.
Welcome to HusDOM. I am sure you will find the wealth of information that is now at your finger tips to be as helpful and inspiring as I have. I too came was introduced to the world of D/s by my submissive’s desire. Though it has not been an easy transition, it has brought us both so much joy and happiness. We are closer now than we have ever been in our twenty years together.
Like you, I came into this with some reluctance. Constantly worrying about being the best Dom for my lady. Thus far, the most important thing I have learned is that communication is KEY. Your sub holds the answers to questions you may not even be asking yet. Be sure that you keep those lines of communication open at all times. So many things will fall into place for you. And remember, her submission is the most precious gift she can give you. Respect it. Cherish it. And I assure you, she will love submitting to you, which will feed your Dominance and help it flourish.
at 4:30 pm
Wonderful introduction sir and look forward to chatting with you in the near future. Mr. Fox and Master of Angels really summed up the beauty of the D/s-M dynamic – it is yours to mold to your needs, satisfaction, happiness, and marriage. Thee is no fixed ‘blueprint’ for a D/s-M relationship in my opinion though there are foundational elements that strengthen your dynamic from which to build on, grow from, and adapt to as you evolve and discover along your journey. Master of Angels said it so well, your Miss Vixen’s submission is the most precious gift she can give you – Protect, Respect, Cherish, Nurture, Grow, and Love it like no other.
You are on an exciting journey and have found the right place for support, comraderies, and community as we ALL are learning and growing in our own D/s-M dynamics. I can personally attest to the amazing support and growth i have received from the entire community and it has truly changed my dynamic and helped my Parapluie and I grow in tremendous ways.
Not wanting to make an assumption but if your Miss Vixen hasn’t already she should visit subMrs as well.
Welcome again and Best Regards to you and your Vixen