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  • Hello Everyone

  • bluesmoke1930

    at 8:08 pm

    Basic | Dominant

    Good Evening Everyone!

    My wife & I have been together since 2008 and married since 2012. Our marriage is going strong & she has been my rock while serving in the military. I’ve always had a home to come home to no matter what country we have been stationed in. We have lived in Japan, Germany, & now the Midwest. We’ve had our ups and downs like most relationships. But all in all we are happy & there is a lot of love present in our marriage.

    She is an avid reader & enjoys reading books that have BDSM in them. For some time she has been all about it & only recently has mentioned it to me.

    Now our sex life was vanilla our entire relationship with the occasional hot stuff on special occasions. So the conversations of BDSM where very vivid & detailed from her side of the conversation & mine was “this one time on Pornhub” & I felt very behind the power curve.

    That being said we bought some cuffs, rope, & some new toys. Been having fun with those. Since this new discovery we have both been doing research on D/S & BDSM. Taking online surveys, reading books, and watching YouTube videos. I’m so glad that there is such an active helpful community that have opened my eyes to this new and exciting world of play.

    Things I am interested in expanding on:


    Rope Play





    Wax play

    Sensory deprivation


    I’m sure I left some out but thats what is so exciting. Both my wife and I love to learn and are enthusiastic about learning to play together in a new realm.

    Thanks for listening and I’ll see you in the Chats & Forums.


  • Mr.Fox

    at 10:28 am

    Premium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™

    Welcome aboard Bluesmoke,

    You have a great story that almost all of us can relate to on one level or another. Your excitement and enthusiasm are contagious as it makes me smile to remember the beginning of my own journey.

    Looking at your list of interests made me smile as well. Maybe just listing the things you aren’t interested in would have produced a shorter list. lol

    Best wishes

    Mr Fox


    at 11:49 am

    Premium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™

    Welcome to husDOM @bluesmoke1930,

    Our subs due tend to run ahead of us at the beginning, so feeling behind the curve is pretty normal. We have found that D/s-M has been the missing ingredient in what already a great marriage. We love the clarity that having defined roles produces and the changes in our mindsets and thinking that have occurred in and out of the bedroom. The hot sex that accompanies BDSM play is just an added bonus.

    Hope you find this community as helpful as I have.

  • sir-hermosa-amb

    at 12:04 pm

    Premium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™

    He’s lying. “Added bonus” Should read more like “OMG frigging amazing”

    But that aside, welcome sir.

    Your story sounds a bunch like mine as well, and the first 6 things on your list sound almost exactly the same as my top 6 things. Lol

    Any time you want to talk ropes, rigging, restraints, shibari, or a beautifully pinked arse, I’m your guy.

    Cheers sir, and welcome.

    Don’t be shy on the chat tab! I’ve seen you online a few times now, but haven’t had the chance to talk in real-time. Let me know when you do get online and see me. I’m working nights for the next week, and any time after 1900 EST I’ll be checking the chat regularly.

    • OTW-AMB

      at 5:53 pm

      Premium Content | Through the Eyes of a husDOM™

      ROFL @sir-hermosa-amb

      Yes, the sex is amazing but we had that pretty well before, just had tension surrounding the process of starting the good sex.

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