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  • First step of my journey

    Posted by Fade on 12/06/2020 at 5:07 pm

    Greetings, gentlemen.

    Basic information: My wife and I met in 9th grade, got married out of high school, married for 3 years, and we are both 23 years old.

    Like many others, my journey with my high-school-sweetheart-wife into D/s began with her discovery of 50 Shades of Gray. I was actually the first person to jokingly introduce her to the book in Sophomore year of high school, never expecting any of this to happen. In the beginning I was very resistant to any and all information by the mere fact that she was trying to get me into it, and it not only did not feel like my choice, but I did not line up with her timing (rabbit). Soon after I realized my reluctance was truly an admittance of defeat, simply for the reasons of WHY I was resisting.

    Like a smart man, I decided to learn from my wife – once I had made the decision myself that is…

    We have been delving further into this reading articles here and there (me), and devouring any and all information D/s at a rate of consumption which makes a black hole seem small (her), over the last year and getting progressively more comfortable with it.

    There hasn’t been a lack of intimacy per se, but it was clear to me she was not getting her needs fulfilled and it bothered me quite a lot. When we first were testing the waters and I saw the way she fed off the interaction, it made me realize too that I had been holding back for all the years I’ve known her. “Years of academic training, wasted!” – Buzz Lightyear

    I was always very caring, nice, protective, and gentle with her. Allowing her to make her decisions and be an adult. You know, everything society teaches you. I also grew up with 4 women and a dad who didn’t really have much in the department of role-modeling.

    Once we opened Pandora’s box, I realized I DO have a desire for control (Not TPE). And I most certainly want to use her as I HAD wanted to, not how I thought she wanted to be. When the stars and moons finally had aligned and I realized that me taking of her was, in fact, feeding into her own submissive needs, I decided to more seriously commit to this lifestyle.

    I have so much to learn still, and I look forward to the journey. We both agreed that joining these communities would be a very worthwhile investment to us both, so we took the step forwards. I’d say our styles are more aligned with “Daddy and Little girl”, which works for me, however, I would still like to explore further and push her limits.

    That’s pretty much where I’m at. I think this is good for a page summation of how I got here. I’ll try to check on this all fairly regularly for any chats or conversations as I would like to be as involved as able.

    Other main hobby is PC gaming, so if anyone has tips on ways I could possibly incorporate both these interests feel free to share.


    OTW-AMB replied 1 year, 9 months ago 6 Members · 7 Replies
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  • Spear

    12/06/2020 at 6:48 pm

    Wow nice intro, I like it. As for the gaming and D/s I did see somewhere on here they have started or brought back a countdown to Christmas with fun ideas and one I believe was to involve some bondage while gaming. 👌

    • Fade

      12/06/2020 at 7:49 pm

      That’s a great idea. I may have to incorporate my new remote control vibrator into the bondage. Maybe it gets turned up or down when X thing happens.

  • Sir-Ed-amb

    12/06/2020 at 9:31 pm

    Welcome to Husdom, glad you found us. Me and Marie are also high school sweethearts. Of course we didn’t find this lifestyle until much later in our relationship, we will be celebrating 25 years of marriage in June 2021. Probably could of saved us both a lot of heartache in the beginning. Of course the struggles are what make the successes even sweeter. Hope to catch you on the dominant chat or see you at one of my scheduled chats. Lastly, if I can give you some advice remember communication, communication, and communication, open and honest conversations will help you make great strides in this journey with your submissive.

    Best regards,

    Sir Ed

  • sir-hermosa-amb

    12/07/2020 at 7:49 am

    Welcome sir!

    Pretty confident that I couldn’t have done this when I was 30. I still had a lot of growing up to do. I commend you.

    Take the time to listen! Make time to talk about this with her each week, or every few days (see pages on downtime) and work on your understanding of her and her desires… and yours!

    This can be amazingly fun. But it’s also a solid lot of work for a good dominant to look after his sub… and literally everything else!

    Good luck mate

    • Fade

      12/07/2020 at 5:35 pm

      Thank you all for your continuous words of wisdom. I feel I have made a good choice in joining the community. I’ve always jokingly said I’m 23 going on 65 because I’ve never felt my age. For several factors, but I didn’t have much choice but to grow up fast. I think this dynamic is very helpful in feeling like I’m taking back control over parts of my life resulting in a greater sense of agency. Looking forward to getting to know you all further.

  • sir-bee

    12/07/2020 at 11:38 am

    I just wanted to take a moment to say how very impressed I am with your introduction.

    My wife and I also met in high school. We will be celebrating our 24th year together next year. I myself was a complete mess at your age. Your wife is a very lucky women.

    It sounds like you are off to a great start in your new dynamic. My very best wishes to you both.


    12/09/2020 at 11:21 am

    Welcome @Fade,

    It was good getting to chat with you this morning. Kudos on finding what you both like so early. I spent a decade thinking I was helping my wife by finding her preference and doing that. Found I was driving her nuts and was not the man she needed in the bedroom.

    I would encourage you to enjoy these starting times and be willing to explore things as the dynamic evolves. Both my minx and I have found a number of things that we enjoy that I wouldn’t have thought of initially. Looking forward to getting to chat.