I’m 39 and have been married to my wife for 16 years. We went through a rough patch 3-4 years ago, and I realized if I wasn’t going to leave her, I needed to fully commit and do what needed to be done. As I began to work on transforming myself, she started wanting to have sex again, and while we had experimented with BDSM before, now she wanted to be submissive every time. (A few times she’s asked to have vanilla sex, but inevitably winds up moaning ‘yes sir’ before long). I’ve been trying to grow as a man and master, but BDSM relationships have so many possible varieties that books and tutorials can only go so far. Our relationship is formally bedroom-only, but she does look to me to lead the household. I am hoping to develop my dominant style and gain some insight from a community of other men. Looking forward to meeting you all!