Hi everyone. I am so brand new. My sub and I didn’t realize what was happening to us until a few days ago. We also liked our sex a little rough and she always liked when I took charge, then something shifted and I really took charge and she really liked it. It was this shift where I could sense she wanted me to lead her and I really wanted to do the leading. After it was over and we were both out of breath and cuddling she said she thought this made her submissive and she liked it. So we started googling and learning. I think I have read every single blog post on here and she is on subMrs doing the same. We are still learning and talking about all that we are learning. So maybe we aren’t Dom/sub but we are trying to figure that out for sure. This site and its blog posts have really tapped into something deep in me that I didn’t really know was there. Thank you!