I discovered D/s about 6 years ago and dove in a bit hastily. I read all of these new concepts and my narcissism grabbed on to them as if I could never exist without all of, and I had to have them immediately. I like to chalk it up to being young and dumb.
As my personal life took a few very sharp turns in a very short amount of time, I realized that I needed to step back and truly consider what it is I wanted out of a D/s relationship. I was in no place financially to be taking on such a responsibility, and felt I was not mature enough yet to be who I wanted to be. I stopped looking for a sub, and put everything on the shelf until I could get my life squared away.
And now, years later, I am finally in a position where I feel I can commit the energy needed to truly dominate a sub, and mature enough to know that I certainly need guidance and help in learning how to provide emotionally what it is my sub needs.
Kinky sex is fine and dandy, but for Astra and I it is the mental and emotional aspects of D/s that we are not only drawn to, but absolutely feel a need for in our lives.
I am glad to have found this site and hope to learn a great deal here, as other community sites can be difficult to find topics on(fetlife is cool and all, but it’s mostly kinky social media).
“Honesty is the first chapter in the Book of wisDOm! Thomas Jefferson
It appears as though you had an honest moment with yourself a few years ago. I am glad that you found your way to our community and look forward to learning more about you and having the opportunity to be part of your journey.
husDOM is rapidly growing into a decisive resource for committed loving Dominants and I have yet to find another of it’s equal. I have to thank everyone that participates for making husDOM what it has become.