I would like to thank those of you who took the time to help me with my struggling dynamic. It was very much appreciated and it helped to guide me in my self-reflection to answer my submrs question of “Why am I a husDom?” I will be using this post for updates on our dynamic, it’s struggles and victories and everything in between.
I finally had that discussion with my submrs (daisy), and felt immense relief afterwards. We have agreed to continue our dynamic, but we are starting back at the basics, building a solid foundation of communication first, and then adding to it bit by bit. As the saying goes, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
Our next step is going to be another conversation about what feeds both of us, her submission and my Dominance. After being asked that question and then doing some self-reflecting, I found that I couldn’t provide specifics on what fed me, let alone what feeds my daisy.
Again, I want to express my sincerest thanks to those that asked the hard and thought provoking questions, providing the guidance I needed for my self-reflection. I am excited to share this new journey with you all.
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you have a good plan for rebuilding a consistent but sure and steady dynamic. It is a good challenge to have to stop and think about your motivations for this and how to know not only the what of what feeds your submissive, but also the motivations for that if possible.
I look forward to updates and seeing how your dynamic grows.
So daisy and I had that follow on conversation about what fed us and how we are going to move forward. We decided together to KISS…Keep It Simple Stupid! We decided on a few small rituals to help us remain in the mindsets of our roles. A couple of the rituals are similar to what we did in the past (like daisy preparing my coffee in the morning), but we made some slight adjustments to, again KISS. We had some inspiration from other members of the D/s-M community, so we would like to thank you for that! We started everything yesterday morning, so it is too early to tell how everything is going, but I will keep you all updated.