I would like to thank those of you who took the time to help me with my struggling dynamic. It was very much appreciated and it helped to guide me in my self-reflection to answer my submrs question of “Why am I a husDom?” I will be using this post for updates on our dynamic, it’s struggles and victories and everything in between.
I finally had that discussion with my submrs (daisy), and felt immense relief afterwards. We have agreed to continue our dynamic, but we are starting back at the basics, building a solid foundation of communication first, and then adding to it bit by bit. As the saying goes, how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
Our next step is going to be another conversation about what feeds both of us, her submission and my Dominance. After being asked that question and then doing some self-reflecting, I found that I couldn’t provide specifics on what fed me, let alone what feeds my daisy.
Again, I want to express my sincerest thanks to those that asked the hard and thought provoking questions, providing the guidance I needed for my self-reflection. I am excited to share this new journey with you all.
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like you have a good plan for rebuilding a consistent but sure and steady dynamic. It is a good challenge to have to stop and think about your motivations for this and how to know not only the what of what feeds your submissive, but also the motivations for that if possible.
I look forward to updates and seeing how your dynamic grows.
So daisy and I had that follow on conversation about what fed us and how we are going to move forward. We decided together to KISS…Keep It Simple Stupid! We decided on a few small rituals to help us remain in the mindsets of our roles. A couple of the rituals are similar to what we did in the past (like daisy preparing my coffee in the morning), but we made some slight adjustments to, again KISS. We had some inspiration from other members of the D/s-M community, so we would like to thank you for that! We started everything yesterday morning, so it is too early to tell how everything is going, but I will keep you all updated.
It’s been awhile since I posted an update about the renewed journey. It has been a bit of a struggle right now. My daisy’s chronic illness has kept us both from being able to do more of the physical stuff we both like. However, we have made some slight changes to our dynamic to compensate for this series of events. We sat down and had a good discussion about doing other things that feed both of us. She came up with some great ideas to help not only feed her submission, but also feed my Dominance. It was very fascinating that she had come up with these ideas on her own. We have not fully implemented those ideas, but we are working towards it. I am looking forward to providing an update in the coming weeks.
We tested the waters and found that some of the health issues she was dealing with were caused by stress. Once I was able to hit her factory reset button a few times, we were able to enjoy more of the physical parts of our dynamic. It was really interesting to see how she sank deeper into her submission with how I had, as she likes to call it, “putting her in her place”. We had a great discussion about some of the rituals and rules feed both of us and what we need to change/work on. I am glad to be a part of this community, as I learn something from everyone.