Hello all. I am VERY new to the D/s culture and have signed up with Husdom in hopes of learning from others through their experiences. I have high hopes for what this lifestyle has to offer my marriage.
As an introduction, I thought I might provide some background. Around 10 years ago, my wife told me she wanted me to take more control in the bedroom. While I was the aggressor early in our marriage, I had become the opposite over time. However, she was never able to explain what that meant, nor did that keep her from expressing her frustration and critique when she was displeased with anything.
Anyway, fast forward 10 years and, after several rounds of counseling, and some poor, infrequent, vanilla sex, here we are. She just very recently told me she has strong interest in a D/s relationship. She wanted it with me (which, I guess, is a positive) and wondered what I thought. Not knowing really anything about it, I did what I usually do…research.
At first, I had my reservations. While I was very interested conceptually, everything was very focused on BDSM and not at all centered around a monogamous relationship. I should note that we are Christians, so there are some things that are going to be a little extreme for us. Then I came across Husdom and that all changed. Seeing how this could work in a marriage was very encouraging. After discussing what I had found with my wife, we came to an agreement that we would pursue this lifestyle going forward. So far, the biggest challenge has been changing our mindsets as my wife had been behaving more like a D and I was the s. We actually both have dominant/controlling personalities, but that is where our marriage had landed. I was generally the D in every way except in the bedroom.
Now, I have tons of questions and eagerly look forward to the advise of everyone here. However, I’ll keep this post to an introduction level. Thank you.
Welcome to husDOM. You will find everyone here is willing to help in anyway they can as we all love to share what we have learned. Any questions you have feel free to ask in the chat and you can also ask in the forums, the forums will archive the questions and answers where the chat will not keep them forever. I look forward to chatting with you sometime. Again welcome to husDOM.