I was a typical 41-year-old married man with two wonderful children. Like most married men I would have told you that my marriage was wonderful and that my wife and I were still very happy in our marriage. And I would have believed those very words that I spoke to you.
On May 26, 2012, my wife and I attended a local wine festival. We haven’t spent much time alone together since our daughter was born nearly sixteen years prior. As pathetic as that sounds it was true. We had become so focused on life and achieving success that we somehow lost sight of each other.
The festival was like a date to us and we were having a pretty good time, especially considering my wife had not really liked any wine prior to this event. The day was scorching hot and we found ourselves taking a break from the summer heat under an old River Birch Tree. With a bottle of wine in hand, out of nowhere my wife looked at me and said that she was unhappy with our marriage!
My relationship with my wife has been nothing but a beautiful love story. We were high school sweethearts at fifteen, married at eightneen and have been inseparable ever since. I thought our marriage was great. Today, looking back with a bit more honesty, I can see where our marriage may not have been as perfect as I thought, especially after our children were born. Life tends to take over and somehow it is all too easy to lose track of both you and your spouse’s needs.
In reality, I didn’t treat my wife the same as I once had. The loving gentleman that she had married has now just become a partner in life.
Before I could fully comprehend my wife’s confession she continued… She was unhappy with many aspects of our marriage:
I didn’t treat her the same as I had pre-children.
We couldn’t communicate without arguing any longer.
She no longer felt that I respected her as a person.
Things seemed to only be ‘alright’ after we had sex and that effect only lasted for the afternoon if that long. And we werent havung much sex to begin with.
If it weren’t for all the wine we had consumed that afternoon and the crazy summer heat I’m sure that I would remember her concerns a bit more clearly. I do remember, however, when she said that she would like to try a BDSM relationship.
I’m not sure that she used those words exactly but essentially that is what she said. She wanted a more open and honest relationship. A relationship where we respected, honored, and adored one another again. She had recently read a popular book where the characters had a similar relationship to ours and connected deeply through an intense level of communication.
Just think of the bare vulnerable honesty that she just entrusted me with. She will probably always be the most courageous person that I will ever encounter in my lifetime. I could have never been so honest with her.
We have barely embarked on our journey and I have already grown as a person and as a husband in so many positive ways. Before I was a quiet person who kept my true deep feelings well guarded, even from my wife.
We decided to share our journey and our experiences and development with others that may be interested in how a straight-laced all-American married couple veered off course and found themselves in their own BDSM utopia.
Follow my journey from Husband to Dom…. husDOM™…
Mr. Fox