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Topping from the bottom to Vanilla Dom
Hello All,
A brief introduction or so I thought –
I have been with my Angel for 20 years and married for 16 with two children in their early teens. We have been playing in the bedroom for around 2 years in which she initiated expressing her desire for me to be her Sir as she wanted to submit to me totally. I didn’t have a clue where to start and found a lot of information on the web which made think I wasn’t sure I was going to get into the lifestyle but as I just wanted to please my Angel went for it.
As my confidence grew in the bedroom and a fair few $ spent on toys thought I had it worked out. Wrong big time. Around 2 months ago I realised that my Angel needed the connection on an emotional level too, in the sense that I rarely told her I loved her or how proud of her I was. Although I loved her I could not find a way to express my true feelings. What a relief as My Angel could then begin to fully submit to me as her Sir, it was not merely physical and began to understand the treasure she had gifted to me and so as she had given herself to me I could do the same but as Sir, I was her guide. I began to text her and set her tasks as our scenes improved I rationalised that I was having fantastic sex with her mind too and as my confidence grew even more I took on more of a talking role which sent her into subspace in so much that I could guide her orgasms from her one after the other. I began to understand the power of a loving Dom who treats his sub with the up most respect which was what she craved all along.
My initial assumption that Dominants were alpha males with a “suck my dick bitch” attitude did not sit well with me but by discovering this site and the fantastic Mr Fox’s blogs (along with others) has made me view my role more as a kind of Daddy Dom by day and Sir by night.
Family circumstances have meant that my Angel and I are separated by a 12 hour timezone (for a month) caused some great concern for me as we had made huge progress which might be lost. With one week to go we have shifted our dynamic in that I can email my Angel overnight with my to do list for when she awakens and has the whole day to reach her subspace so a little warm up through messaging before we hit the webcam works so well. As each day went by I could also reassure her she was Sirs good girl and how her submission makes me so proud of her also as my partner as she manages so well with her day to day life coping with our children, working and studying.
I have purchased our first collar which is a quality leather item which she is beside herself with excitement knowing Sir will collar her on my return. For me it is a big step as I embrace the responsibility of ownership of my wife as my submissive.
How am I going to make this event meet her expectations?
Well over to you guys!
Cheers,
Subshub
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3 Replies
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subshub,
Welcome aboard!
What a great introduction Sir…
You have touched so many important issues that I don’t know where to begin.
I laughed out loud when you said the fantastic Mr Fox…. I don’t know if you said that on purpose but that was a movie… lol
I am curious about the collaring…
Best Wishes,
Mr Fox
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Renn just transitioned to a new collar that can be worn inside in one way and outside another. She may not put the collar on or take it off herself, only I may collar. She is allowed to transition it when i am gone.
Yesterday I found her sitting in the car holding her collar as we drove home. When I inquired about what she was thinking, she said she was excited to be going home and looking forward to her session. When I asked about her rolling her collar in her hand, she said it helped to center her and think of me commanding her to control herself.
The collar has played out quite differently from what we originally thought. It is very important to her and when she is emotional she will ask to wear it to help keep her centered.
Welcome to the Den and good luck with your trip home!
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The Hunter,
I like how the collar is transitioning into such an integral part of your dynamic.
Thank you for sharing and best wishes,
Mr Fox
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