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Thought I did this already. Maybe not…
Greetings!
My flower and I have been married for 16 years. We have two boys (13 and 7). Toward the end of last fall we came a hair’s breadth from divorce. My work schedule is very sporadic and includes several nights away from home. We were not connecting. I found myself seeking solace in work and in electronics. A friend got me started in an online chat game in a world called Gor. I spent a lot of time and it actually pulled me away from everything. The other players and I began chatting in Facebook messenger, planning our next attacks, etc. And yes, the women on there were very flirty, both in the game and in the chat. I got sucked in to the positive reactions and, while not engaging in any sex (real or pretend), I certainly engaged in chatting that was not appropriate for our relationship. I had also had a problem with porn and had a curiosity with BDSM scenarios, but always pushed it out of mind.
When my flower discovered these women chatting with me, how they talked to me and me to them, we had a fight. During that fight she mentioned she would have been willing to do those things. It seems like I spent forever working to win her back. She never did leave, nor did I. We were able to work through it. I no longer get on the Gor game. I also deactivated my Facebook account. She has granted complete access to any of my electronics or accounts at any time she wishes. We have adopted a policy of “full disclosure.” As part of the recovery process we discussed the comment she made. She talked about the slaves in Gor, wearing a collar, and similar.
At this point we agree we are well past the “recovery phase.” In fact she has given me not less trust, but more. She has submitted to me and we have begun exploring as much of a 24/7 M/s relationship as we can with children. We have discovered we both enjoy it very much. We are still learning and exploring. Since placing her in my collar we have a new level of relationship and are closer than we have been in many years. She found the submrs.com website and suggested I check this site.
I look forward to getting to chat with some of you, and to learn from you or better, learn together. As far as we know, we currently have noone in our lives that shares this lifestyle. It is nice to know we are not alone.
-Bear
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Welcome to HusDOM. Glad you found us. I’ve never played the Gor online game stuff but my curvey and I are devouring the books. We’ve made some real live Gorean friends in Houston that actually live the M/s life full time. It’s been fun to explore that part of us, even if we are mostly bedroom role playing. More flavors for our dynamic. Again, welcome.
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