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The Birth of an Angel
In most cases you read about online, it seems the submissive is the one who approaches their Dom and initiates the D/s relationship. I guess I’m just use to doing things my own way. I’m a 39 year old who has been blessed to be married to my wife for 17 years, who has given me two wonderful children (ages 5 & 9). After much thought I approached her this past weekend to adopt a more 24/7 D/s lifestyle, presenting her with a contract that laid out expectations, and other normal D/s topics. My goal in approaching this was to 1) spice up things in the bedroom and keep things interesting (of course!), 2) bring us closer together through her deepening her trust in me in all aspects of her life & me focusing more of my attention on her, and 3) using that trust, helping her overcome some lingering demons from her past to unlock her true potential I know she has. After giving it the 24 hour rule to think about it, she agreed to commit to a 1 month trial, giving it her all for 1 month and then re-assess if we want to continue.
Now, sitting 24 hours later, it’s obvious this lifestyle is for us. The first night, it was as if some door in her head was flung open, unleashing the trapped creature that was within. While always submissive by nature, having the structure of the rituals & protocols freed her from overthinking and let her fully enjoy the moment. I became her whole world, and it was a beautiful to see this new creature come to life before my eyes. I don’t think either of us slept much that first night! I was then that her new pet name was given to her, “Angel”.
To keep things simple to start with, I have given here four rituals to help focus her mind on her submission:
1) When eating a meal together in the same room/same time (or if Sir is working from home) Angel will not eat/drink until her first bite or first sip is served by Sir. When in private Angel will kneel. Angel will then respond with the words, “Thank you, Sir”.2) Angel will kiss Sir when going to bed and repeat the mantra: “Sir, I hope I served you well today”. In the morning, Angel will place kisses on Sir’s body and repeat the mantra: “Sir, I hope I serve you well today”.
3) During the day Angel will kiss Sir and whisper “yours” at least once. When Sir is traveling (absent for more than 24 hours), Angel will text Sir.
4) Twice a week Angel will have downtime with Sir (have time to talk and ask questions and communicate), Sir sitting down and Angel kneeling with her head on Sir’s lap. If we are apart (ie. Sir has to travel), we will do it virtually (phone call).
I am sure more will develop as we continue on our D/s journey, as I learn to test her bounds and discover where her limits lie.
As for becoming a member of HusDom, I see in this site a mindset that I resonate with. Most online resources seem to be all about the power exchange for sake of the power exchange, or the short term kink. Here, the topics seem less about the “how” and more about the “why”, using the tips and techniques to deepen the relationship between submissive & Dom, bringing out the best in both. I am looking forward to learning more about how to be the best Sir for my Angel. Thank you for having me!
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Welcome to the site SirScott! Always interesting to see who initiates, how, and for what reasons. I started it up in our case. You should also talk to Sir, if you haven’t already. Glad you got off to a good start! I’ve found over time that flexibility and capacity to grown/change are huge factors in developing the dynamic, especially if there is no prior experience and it is being grown from within an existing LTR. Some of our initial rules and practices have stuck and been foundational, whereas others have changed over time or been dropped all together. Think critically, adopt and adapt, and do what is best for both of you, that’s my initial advice. Anyway, best of luck getting started!
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SirScott,
We have just reached our one month destination on our journey. She too is my Angel. I by no means have many answers, but I do have lots of questions. I found your intro quite interesting. Your assessment of husdom.com is spot on. It has been very enlightening and, and to be honest, soul-freeing. I will ask, out of respect for you, if I may use some of your rituals? We are constantly seeking that missing piece. The one that’s ever moving. We too have daily rituals. I’m sure the numbers will increase as time passes. Every morning when Angel arrives at work she most text Sir that she made it safely. At the end of the day she must text me she is leaving. Arriving at home Angel must text Sir as well. If Angel needs to stop along the way Sir must be informed. At night she undresses as I command. Then she undresses me. We share a kiss. She must ask to join me in bed. Currently working on the item from Sir that Angel must carry at all times to serve as a reminder that she is my best friend, my lover, my wife, my sub-that she is owned, respected, protected by Sir.
I wish you, SirScott, and Angel the best and many happy, rewarding, days.
SirK(aka DK)
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Mr.
Thank you for the greeting and advice! I can imagine “flexibility and the capacity to grow/change” are key for both parties as they embark on their D/s journey together. Thanks again!
SirK:
Thank you for your greeting. I am honored that you wish to use some of the ritual I mentioned. Feel free to use/modify to suite your needs. Thank you also for the insight into your daily rituals. Best wishes to you and your Angel!
SirScott
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Welcome. Yes my curvey brought this D/s-M idea to me. I jumped at it and nearly drove off the road.
The mindset here is phenomenal.
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