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Relief
I’m so relieved to have found this site, everything I’ve been searching for for the past couple of days in one place. You wouldn’t believe the rubbish I’ve had to browse through to get here.
So here goes ..
My name is Trevor, and I’ve been with my girlfriend, Sonia, for 13 years.(Wow, real names. How comfortable do I feel). We’ve both been married before, so weren’t really in a rush to get married, and could never agree on the size of wedding or guests. I don’t think that is going to be much of a problem now though.So up until 6 days ago, I would have said we had the perfect relationship. Always wanting to spend more time together, good communication, incredible sex, one minor argument in 13 years.
We’ve both decided recently that we weren’t happy with our careers, but were lacking the motivation to do anything about it. I made a joke about her needing to be submissive, and just do as she was told, to which she jokingly replied “ok”, at least I thought she was joking at the time.
When we first met, she was very vulnerable, and I made every effort to ensure that she always felt equal, and not pressured. Consequently she’s now very strong willed, and couldn’t be manipulated by anyone. Imagine my surprise to find that what she really wants now, is completely the opposite, a 24/7 D/s lifestyle.
Although only 6 days in, and with the house move making further complications with getting her into a routine. She has slipped into her role with frightening ease.
Her desire to please me appears to have no limits, and I have tried to find some, but she has done everything I’ve asked of her, and with such enthusiasm. Although I did get caught out when administering a punishment, I hadn’t anticipated how emotional she would be, feeling she had let me down, and equally surprised in the effort she goes to, to ensure it doesn’t happen again.
So I’m desperately trying to play catchup, and just looking for as much information and ideas as I can to give her the support and structure that she has so clearly shown that she wants.
She now goes to work with a sparkle in her eye, and a spring in her step, that makes our previous lifestyle pale in comparison. -
5 Replies
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Welcome Trevor.
I have been living the D/s life style for six months and share your enthusiasm and urge to educate myself. If no one has given you any advice or if you have questions. The Dominant Blog has tones of information and is a great resource for ideas and wisdom. Happy wishes on your journey.
Sir.
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Welcome T, you have found a wonderful site. Don’t try and catch up to fast just go at your own pace. Some Dom’s have been in the lifestyle for a while and some like you at brand new.
Check out the archives and read the blogs on there, its a good place to start.
Mr. Fox has been busy with his LK and will soon be back with us more.
Happy journey
Buck
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Trevor I too am new and I agree that it is life changing. My submissive and I are going on 24 years of marriage and up until 3 months ago thought we were heading towards divorce. She is the one who turned our marriage around by giving me this gift. She has given me full access to her. I still have so much to learn. I am still doing baby steps, but I am making strides to get better. I love her now more than the day we met and my live just keeps getting stronger.
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Trevor,
Welcome aboard!
Wow! What a wonderful testimonial…
I’m so relieved to have found this site, everything I’ve been searching for for the past couple of days in one place. You wouldn’t believe the rubbish I’ve had to browse through to get here.
I understand your frustration… That is why husDOM was created.
I enjoyed reading your introduction. It is amazing all of the benefits that this lifestyle can have on a couples relationship.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Welcome T, You have definitely found a community of support and wisdom. I have only began in May of this year. My Submissive and wife of 22 awesome years got things going for us. If you haven’t already discovered L K’s site it is great help to your submissive, it has been great for our journey. I know with information provided on both sites you will have the building blocks for success. Good luck on your adventure as life is truly the greatest adventure of all. Also when out in the world smile your best smile there are only a few men that have this gift freely given.
Regards M.R
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