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Our journey begins
Just joined the site today. After some time of discussions and false starts I and my sub have decided to move forward on a journey we both desire. This decision was more difficult for me as her ex was abusive physically, mentally, and emotional. I would not be part of anything that would cause harm to her. After reading a few blogs here I found that what we were looking for is described here inFor 3 weeks we have become active with the Dom/sub roles. We do not view them as just roles, but also, and more importantly, a life change. In our brief time we have made some surprising and pleasant discoveries. I have found, opened, and released my inner hidden Dom. She has discovered, opened, and released her inner sub. In the few brief weeks we have pursued this we taken to our respective positions much easier and happily than either believed. We have started journals to track our progress and expectations of ourselves and each other. Our communication, trust, feelings, emotions, affections, desires, wants, and needs have grown exponentially. Our training thus far has included how we address each other together in public and at home, proper kneeling(2 styles-submissive and corrective), dress. I have found a renewed confidence in myself. A new trust with her. She has found a new confidence in herself, in me; a new trust in herself and in me. At this time we struggle with breaking through her mental block of vulnerability. Advice is welcomed.
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SirK,
Let me say that you are off to an excellent start. The self discovery along the journey is amazing… The lifestyle, when done right, definitely renews confidence in oneself and trust and communication with each other as well.
As for your submissive’s mental block regarding vulnerability, this is most likely a trust issue. Maybe being vulnerable also puts her in a position where she feels she can be hurt in some manner whether it be physical or psychologically. My advice is to allow the new dynamic to develop organically and to focus on the basics of the relationship. As the foundation continues to grow stronger her vulnerability issue will naturally begin to disappear.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Mr Fox,
Thank you for the advice and support. Last night we had a major break through on her part which in turn helps me. After asking her to to think about it we had a long conversation. She believes that she is ready for the next step. We look forward to our journey and adventure.
SirK
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