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New World our journey so far.
Hello All,
I picked the topic title simply because, as well as being new to D/s and BDSM i am also new to speaking to people online and sharing.
We are a professional couple with demanding jobs in the finance world, I have been married to my baby girl for 3 years now, but we have been together 10 years.
We got together when we were in our early 20s and had our first child very early into the relationship, we now have 2 children one 9 and the other 6.My journey so far has been fairly short and I would say its been about a month, although it actually probably started a number of years ago but I don’t think we realized it or accepted it at the time.
My babygirl spoke to me about a month ago, which at the time seemed like it was out of the blue. Looking back that isn’t really the case. She said although she deeply loves, trusts and respects me she wants more to our relationship and we just no longer talk.
After the initial heartache this caused I have since realized after reading a blog from Mr Fox this was probably the hardest thing she has ever done and she was so brave as it could have very easily ended us.The kids went to a friends and we spent two days talking, not arguing… but clearing out all our feelings,frustrations and concerns. It was upsetting at the time for both of us but we learned so much.
We started talking about everything but the biggest realization was that she really wanted our sex life to involve BDSM, we have played a bit in our marriage in the past but it was only a few times.
she confessed she really liked some pain and wanted me to be more dominate in the bedroom. What was the hardest part is the few times we have played I have loved it but we were both scared to admit it to the other.We have talked a lot and been very open since. We have talked about what we like and what we want to try.
Although as we don’t want to rush things, we have only done a bit of sensory play at the moment and some spanking.It turns out by finally opening up and communicating, like we always should off… we actually want the same thing.
It was defiantly more me as I have always found it hard to open up 100%. Its already been such a month of discovery and learning.Its going to be a long road and I can’t tell you how happy I am to find a community such as this one as trying to find information dedicated to married couples was proving to be really difficult.
All your stories and experiences have been a great help already and I am looking forward to chatting and sharing on our journey.
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CT 81,
Welcome to HusDOM Sir,
It is truly amazing how this lifestyle changes people and theur relationships toward one another. Keep the lines of communication open and the sky’s the limit.
Best regards,
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CT81,
Welcome aboard!
“I have since realized after reading a blog from Mr Fox this was probably the hardest thing she has ever done and she was so brave as it could have very easily ended us.”
Whichever person brings this idea up to their unsuspecting spouse is incredibly brave. I had often fantasized and enjoyed the small discreet pleasures that I had when we were vanilla but would never had risked our relationship by allowing myself to disclose these desires to my lk. I have said it many times but I am forever grateful of lk’s courage to discuss her true desires with me.
And I wanted to recognize the new found communication that you have discovered in the beginning of your journey. For almost everyone it is this communication that is the single best attribute of the lifestyle.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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