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New to Husdom Not new to D/s M/s lifestyle
I have taken the time to think this through of how I wanted to intro myself to you all.
I came to this site by the way of my new slave finding the SubMrs.com site. As I have said in my bio I was previously trained in the Gorean style of BDSM. I had found myself leaving the lifestyle due to various reasons due to military and well finding partners that I wanted to try a life with that were not of this community.
But as I found I have always returned due to missing this life and what it means to me. I have found especially getting out of a very bad relationship with my son’s mother because of the power struggle that always ensues in a so called Nilla or Vanilla relationship.
When I met my current partner/slave/ol’ lady I was returning to this life for good there was no more getting away from what I find the most pleasure.
My current slave is proud to wear my collar of consideration and is working towards her collar of training to become a submissive. As I was trained she is being trained in the more traditional manner.
We have our rules I have set rules to start and allowed her to even come with more to help with this transition for herself since she was never trained but was seeking someone to teach her the old ways of relationships with a twist.
I do not like Sadomasochistic lifestyles but do believe we have a lane and a purpose with taking our life to the highest pleasurable plane I can. I do not find pleasure in hurting her or embarrassing her. But do believe without the complete power exchange there will never be harmony in the house.
Our relationship is not a 50 shades to only cover the bedroom since we spend a fraction of our life in there this is complete 24/7 life. I give her what she needs and she responds with what I need. She needs protection, caring, support and knowledge not only in this life but as life in general.
With this life in here I have found that this also mirrors my MC club life. We do not treat our women as dogs but expect not to be treated as one.
If you have any questions of myself feel free to ask. But if you find my ways out of your comfort zone respectfully ask me or delete me. As I will respect your ways of training or living I expect the same.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
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Welcome to husDom Rotor. Good to have you here. As far as I can tell, all flavors of D/s are welcome and I for one am interested in how your Gorean dynamic differs from other forms of D/s. I am familiar with the Gorean world but just by having read some things. I for one would be interested in hearing more. Hope to see you in chat or read a forum post.
Thanatoi
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Welcome. I’m always learning. I’m interested to hear more.
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How to explain the Gorean Lifestyle and I have thought about this so that I can purvey my thoughts in a manner of understanding.
Gorean is a formal traditional type of BDSM it involves a basic strict set of rules that all must abide by. More so for the slave in training. As do the level of collars the slave knows what she has and what she is getting. There is a level of communication between both that they understand the Hard and Soft limits of sex play along with respect and life outside of such. To me it is more outside than the bedroom or dungeon play. Before anything even occurs before the Collar of Consideration is applied she is informed of all and given all rules to read and understand. If she accepts them then and only then will the collar be applied. During this time it gives her the chance to change her mind if this is not the life she is wanting. During this time she is introduced to light bondage and light disciplinary actions. She is given tasks like research of being a non normal type of relationship. She and yourself are considering if this is the life with each other. But she is informed the day she takes her collar off that will be the day unless it is an emergency is when her training stops and our life together stops. Kinda harsh but I see it has to be.
During the training phase she is introduced to punishment for fractions of the rules she has broken. She is allowed to challenge me but in a respectful manner. She is also allowed to assist in further rules to be made. But she is taught the positions she will be in with and without children. She will be presented with a day collar that will be worn. And above all she will not tell anyone the life she has chosen.
During all this time words of No will not be said by either of us. Or life or being tired will not interfere with our time. As I see it does to non BDSM relationships. We when together or apart will have and maintain the respect as if we are next to each other not causing embarrassment to each other we do not talk about our lifestyle but to those whom understand and live it also.
When hosting parties that are not of this life or around people she uses hand gestures like tapping the of the throat to ask me for something without anyone knowing or I have been teaching her another language so that we can converse if need without anyone knowing.
It may seem harsher than others but this is how I was taught. And well I see where it works. And have changed a few for myself because I do not believe in the severity of punishment but I believe we must be accountable for our actions and decisions that harm our life together.
What I provide for her is safety, security, a place she can grow not only in this life but within herself to bring self confidence and self worth. I also provide a safe haven that she can retreat to if needed. She knows that she can trust me and that my word is my bond. She is also pushed to further her education outside of the relationship and the means are provided for. When I am home and when I am abroad at work she is always looked after by my MC club brothers she knows this. She knows that if needed she can call them and they will assist without expecting repayment or try anything with her. This is something she never had. This is the first part hopefully I have answered your questions or probably caused more but feel free to ask and I can answer.Rotor
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