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    New to D/s

    Posted by sirhuds on at

    hello

    My Fiancee and I are just getting started in D/s. we are floundering a little and I have stumbled upon this site.

    I have not formally asked her to be my submissive ( i dint really know where to start with that). She likes the introduction of bondage and really enjoys taking instruction, some physical manhandling but is not confident behaving in a fully submissive manor.

    I have found what we have done to be a huge rush and I am a little surprised by the by how “Manly” and energised that exerting my control makes me feel. I am also a little scared of these feelings if the truth be told. I have been conditioned for so long to be a nice guy in relationships, so this goes against the grain a little. I am scared that my dominant side may scare off my Fiancee ( I find the need to control and exert my will almost intoxicating)

    I do Have a couple of questions. I am not sure if this is the correct place and I will repost theme on a different thread if advised to do so.

    I was wondering what is the best place to start for me on the site?

    How I can train my fiancee to be totally submissive without scaring her off the idea?

    Can D/s be successfully maintained without going 24/7?

    Is there somewhere I can Find a mentor to guide me

    Thank you for taking the time to read this

    Sir Huds

    Unknown Member replied 9 years, 5 months ago 4 Members · 3 Replies
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  • mr-miracle

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    Hi Sir Huds, as a fellow newbie i like the honesty in your post and the fact its not all plain sailing all the time.

  • husdom

    Administrator
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    Sirhuds,

    Welcome aboard!

    It is a good sign that you are concerned about mishandling the power of being the Dominant. The awareness demonstrates that you are most likely going to be a fair and loving dominant rather than the monster that you yourself fear.

    “Conditioned to be the nice guy”

    I know what you mean here but I have never before been so intend with how well I treat my lk. I am nice on an entire different level now.

    DOM already did a wonderful job answering your questions and I will leave it at that.

    But your questions would be much better served in another forum. The reason is that many husDOMs will share the exact questions. You simply have more courage and asked the tough questions in a public forum. The answers will be buried in the intro forum and the other members will most likely not look for them there.

    Best wishes,

    Mr Fox

  • Unknown Member

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    SirHuds
    Please let me add my own welcome to the site as one of the moderator team. My fellow Doms have already fed you with information, so at this stage I’ll hold back to another time and let you get settled. I’m sure we will talk very soon. Again, welcome to the site. HL

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