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New member and new to lifestyle
My new bride and I found each other after previous marriages that did not meet our needs. We started with fantastic sex and then we moved to spanking and anal play. My bride has asked me to move to a Dominant role in our relationship and expressed her desire to relinquish complete control to me. We are taking this slowly and learning about this new lifestyle we are embarking upon. I have been looking in my area for a mentor to help me develop my skills.
We have been having a discussion that I could use some insight on. She has taken to referring to be as Sir but has expressed an interest in occasionally referring to me as “Baby”, a long standing pet name. That said, she also feels calling me Baby will diminish my authority as the Dominsnt in the relationship so she is torn about how to proceed.
My initial thought is to restrict her from calling me Baby except during Downtime but I am very interested in feedback from those more experienced in a 24/7 lifestyle.
Thanks
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Welcome. We started recently as well. She had a pet name or two for me that we have since eliminated as I felt they were emasculating.
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GADomAdam,
Welcome aboard,
You have brought up an interesting dilemma;
That said, she also feels calling me Baby will diminish my authority as the Dominsnt in the relationship so she is torn about how to proceed.
My first question is obvious…
Who is in leading the dynamic?
With that being said… This decision really comes back to your own personal preferences (as the Dominant). I would also solicit her opinion in the matter but it really reverts back to you and your likings. This is part of making it your own. Does her calling you ‘baby’ emasculate you in any manner? Is the nickname too much a reminder of vanilla times together? These questions only you can answer for yourself and ultimately you will have to decide how the endearing term makes you feel.
lk only refers to me as my given name and Sir…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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