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New like everyone else
Greetings,
I’m not sure quite where to start…
My wife and I have been attempting this on a “trial” basis. We have been trying bdsm bedroom only for about a year. Whereas that sounds a long time for a trial, it’s probably only been maybe 5 or 6 play sessions over that time. I have read a great number of websites, forums, books, videos, etc but none have really been able to help. In fact most have been a Bdsm 101 at best. Informative but nothing dealing with the issues we seem to be experiencing.
Long story short, we have been together for almost 16 years and married for almost 10, strictly monogamous, nonpublic so munches are out. My wife in particular is at a wall with her submission. She agrees she is submissive and enjoys receiving instructions and limited restraints. I have done downtime chats and no dice, she continues to feel like it is strictly role play and admits the wall blocking her submission is a fear of losing herself. I have given her hundreds of links to read from the same sources I have read relating to the issue. We are also aware that each couple’s relationship and power exchange is different and unique so our own communication is key. I am hoping some other husbands out there may have some tips that worked for their spouses. I’m at my wits end. I haven’t been able to figure a way to help her breach the wall. I’ve tried directed assignments, with follow ups. She doesn’t do most of them. Punishment is almost a hard limit for her having had problems growing up. I’ve offered to stop the trial many times but she continues to want to keep trying.
I’m trying to get her to post to the linked site for submissive to ask for help there but she is extremely shy of posting about any of this online.
I apologize for the rambling.
Thank you for any advice offered.
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3 Replies
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otterlyfunny,
Welcome to husDOM™.
Great introduction… Of course getting your submissive to sign up on my Little Kaninchen’s community, subMrs™, would help her discover many things about submission. There is a wonderful group of submissives that most likely have shared similar feelings and circumstances. The support is amazing. I understand that your submissive is quite shy but once she signs up she can simply lurk. Allow her to listen to the other submissives on the chat and read some of the forum posts. She may soon discover that she shares many concerns as other submissives.
Your question may get more traction if it were introduced in another forum rather than the Dominant Introduction.
As for you… You have all of the same resources available here on husDOM. You can always email me any questions or PM me as well. Your submissive can also email or PM lk directly too…
You have finally found the right place…
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Thank you for the welcome. Where do you recommend the reposting? Training perhaps? New category for “Sub Problems”?
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otterlyfunny,
Excellent suggestion… I will work on updating the forums…
Mr Fox
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