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New-ish to Dominance, with a poly twist
So, my fox and I have been together for a year now (after a decade of friendship), and what started as dominant touch moved into bedroom Ds, and for the last half year has grown into a more full-time dominance. It’s at this full time point that I’m feeling the need for advice and mentoring. I’m naturally more of a switch, and the desire to be lovey often exceeds the desire to dominate. My fox desires more opportunities to submit, and I’d like to get better at keeping that channel open most of the time.
Meanwhile, my wife is also a dominant (and a more natural one than me), and has an intense relationship with her Jewel, so she’s been a mentor and eBook provider to the extent that our subs benefit from the same things. It’s notable that both of our Ds partners are long-distance, and while we see them regularly, researching how to dominate from a distance was the Google search that brought us here.
Poly disclaimers: Yes, all of our partner’s spice (plural of spouse) are fully informed & supportive, and negotiating healthy boundaries. We all discuss it openly, at least when our mothers aren’t around. No, we don’t all swap partners, but we do snuggle in a big pile. Happy to answer further questions if you’re curious…
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Welcome to the site! Looking forward to chatting and hearing more about your dynamic(s). I don’t think there’s anything mutually exclusive about being lovey or dominant. Depends on your collective approach, desires and goals. You can be a stern disciplinarian, or a loving, tender caretaker (or both), anything is possible, as long as you set it up properly between the two (or more) of you with good communication.
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