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New Dom
My girlfriend of almost 10 years has told me before that she wanted me to be her Dom. I didn’t know much about it and had a closed mind about it until I got her the 50 shades of grey movie. We watched it together last night and when I woke up it wasn’t like a light bulb turned on, it was the sun. I spent about 8 hours this morning reading about being a Dom. We had our first D\s experience tonight and it was great. I wanted to share what I think helped make it a good experience. Communication! That is key to any relationship and I think even more for a D\s relationship. Talking before and after will help you know what your sub is okay with beforehand and what they liked and disliked during downtime. Be prepared. I spent time looking for rope and made cuffs and also a flogger, I also set the stage beforehand placing the items where they go. Looking back, I would have come up with more dialogue (but I do think it’s a good idea to start each session with “what are your safe words” “what do they mean”). And better preparation for the cuffs. I found some clothesline and that’s what I used to make. During downtime my beautiful Angel told me that the cuffs were cutting into her wrists. So if you use clothesline you may want to use cuffs that have more than one loop. I’m done rambling now. Thank you for having such a great site for people to learn and grow.
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7 Replies
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Welcome Mr E. You are embarking on a very exciting journey. Thank you for sharing the ride with us.
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Thank you Tex. I am already very excited to see where this journey leads.
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Thank you Dom. It has been great being here and I’m sure it will only get better from here.
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Welcome Mr. E,
Looks like you better get some good sunglasses(a play on your sun comment)! From the sounds of it, your future as a Dom is very bright!
Enjoy!
Take Care,
Mr. B
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Mr B,
Thank you. I do have good sunglasses, but I think it’s time for an upgrade.
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Mr E,
Welcome aboard!
It is an amazing moment when you realize what your wife is really saying to you and what she truly desires. I am elated that you were one of the lucky men that actually heard what was being said.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Hello Dom community. Today is my first day. My lady of ten years has expressed to me she is naturally a Sub. I am dominant by nature. I have been reading up on how to be a proper Dom. My problem is not sure how to start . We have played with arms being restrained. She has expressed that she trust me but, doesn’t want to be hurt ( too bad ). She would like to be handled hard and soft. I’m not sure how to lead a scene. I will take any suggestions. We talked about having a DOM and SUB relationship all day but it might get weird around the kids. So for now we are bedroom DOM and SUB. PLEASE HELP LOL
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