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New and Need Help
Hello.
51 yo male from CA here. A good friend from a marriage site strongly suggested I come here to help me with my Wife.
We have been married close to 30 years and had a good life until about 5 years ago. Short story is one day I woke up and realized I was living with a shrew. Being a “nice guy” I spent 3 years walking on eggshells and with some help from friends I found my balls and maned up not putting up with her crap.
In the darkest moments I was convinced she was having some kind of affair but was never able to gather enough evidence to prove a physical I strongly believe there was an emotional connection with someone.
During my searching I found that she was entrenched in spanking websites, porn, erotica etc. Being a good little christian boy I was shocked. While playful erotic spanking has always been part of our play it was clear she absorbing things in a whole different way.
For a few years our sex life deteriorated from 3 times a week to once every 10-12 days. My change of attitude has helped bring that back to 1-2 times a week but I want more. Her attitude has changed significantly in that she is back to being the loving partner she used to be but it disturbs me that she seemed to just flick the switch back one day.
I have a plan to see if I can find out what made her the “Medusa” for 3 years but I also want to explore the D/s side with her. Being a nice guy (she liked the bad boys before I came along) I have a difficult time seeing her take me seriously as a D. I am looking for some help from others who had similar concerns when approaching this with their SO. Sorry for the novel but HELP!
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2 Replies
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Qlueless,
Welcome Aboard Sir!
Please thank your friend at the marriage website for directing you toward husDOM.
I have a difficult time seeing her take me seriously as a D. I am looking for some help from others who had similar concerns when approaching this with their
There are many husDOMs here that have encountered similar experiences while learning how to be more Dominant. I believe that you will find this to be a wonderful resource of information for you as you begin your journey.
Let me suggest that you begin reading a few of the earlier posts written in the blog section. After you begin to become more acclimated with the information you will begin to develop many specific questions that will enhance your knowledge of what Dominance within the marriage.
I would also recommend that you exercise patience as you begin this journey. Often times the journey begins at a slower pace as you begin to realize how to make a D/s lifestyle fit you and your submissive.
If your wife is already on-board with exploring a D/s-M relationship she would benefit greatly by becoming a member of my LK’s website, https://submrs.com.
I look forward to learning more about you as you begin this journey.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Qlueless,
Welcome to HusDom!
There is a wealth of information on the blogs and forums that can help you find your path into becoming a HusDom. As Mr. Fox suggested I would go back and read the blogs and forum threads. This will help you to understand how many Doms have interacted with their subs in a variety of circumstances. Then once you have some more information you will be able to put your own questions out there for other HusDoms to give you input on.
This lifestyle is such an adventure.
Enjoy your journey,
Sincerely,
Master Grey
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