New and learning

[mr-k-sir_]

Songbird,

Welcome to husDom, it is great to see a new Domme here. If I can offer one piece of advice, it would be to participate. The members here are a wealth of information and all willing to share, so put yourself out there on the chats and ask questions.

I look forward to chatting with you and following your journey.

Mr. K sir

[mrs-songbird]

Thanks for it the welcome Mr. K. I am looking forward to our journey out of vanilla. I am really struggling with a name for him. Everything I’ve tried so far sounds good in my head but real stupid coming off my lips. I think some of it is my insecurity right now and I am working on building my confidence. The blog about blindfolds was beneficial. Any ideas on finding the “right” pet name??

[mr-k-sir_]

Songbird,

Great question. Dont try to rush coming up with the right name, try out different names until you find one that you like and stick with that. For me, I choose Dea for my sub. It is Italian for “goddess”, it works for us since she is Italian and I worship her. It did take some time for me to find something we both liked, so dont feel like it is something that has to be decided immediately.

Hope this helps.

Mr. K sir

[mrs-songbird]

Thanks Mr K. I will keep trying some things and see what works. I love the idea of making it more fitting to his personality and background rather than what I like. Thanks for sharing how you came up with hers

[havocblaid]

Welcome Mrs. Songbird good to have you with us. As far as naming goes i came up with Emerald for my Mrs because she has an obsession with everything green and she is like a precious jewel in my life. Not sure that helps with your naming issue but figured it couldn’t hurt.
I look forward to hearing more from you and chatting. Again welcome.

[mrs-songbird]

Thanks havocblaid. I like how you came up with her name. It does help me think differently about it. Thanks for the input!

[Unknown Member]

Mrs. Songbird,
Welcome to Husdom as you have found having the courage to ask questions goes along way within this community. We all try to go from our own experiences along our journeys to give others something to pull from within theirs. Getting started can feel like your on uneven ground. As you get a clearer picture of what you want and your confidence builds it will become more natural to you. Mr.K Sir has given you some very good advice already please do not hesitate to ask questions at any time. When finding a name that we felt connected to it took me a while to be honest. I looked into various languages, mythical creatures, I called her my princess for the first 3 months of our journey and never felt right about it. I picked grey wolf for myself because I love the animal and when I think of Dominance I am the leader of my pack. My pack is my family and my wife is my 2nd in command. All decisions go through me but she still has a voice and her opinion matters within our relationship. So I started looking into different wordings for the 2nd in command in a wolf pack. I Found that Luna was the goddess of the moon, and in some cases the 2nd in charge of a wolf pack and it just fit right within us. From that moment forward She became My Luna. I am not saying you have to put that much time and effort into the name. Im saying that is what I did to find a name that made the connection between her and myself feel stronger in our minds. Even after choosing the name it still felt weird calling her by it for a while simply because its new. As with all things new you will adjust and before you realize it will be 2nd nature for you. I hope this has helped you a small amount and that the two of you enjoy your weekend.

Highest Regards,
Grey Wolf

[mrs-songbird]

Thank you Grey wolf. I am beginning to see the wisdom in letting the name be special to us both. I also appreciate your honestly about it feeling strange to say because it’s new. I feel that about quite a few aspects of this journey but see the value of that awkwardness.

[Shujin]

Welcome to husDOM Mrs. Songbird. You have received excellent advice from Mr. K, havocblaid and GreyWolf in terms of naming. Don’t rush it and make it special and meaningful to you and yours. It took me time to find our names and research around things that we liked as well. We started out with just simple plain names and changed them to fit us and have actual meaning behind. By no means feel like you have to have “the name” today or tomorrow. It sure didn’t work that way for us! You’ll have many thoughts and opinions on here that you can take and learn from and mold to your D|s-M and always feel free to ask and participate and never think a question is too simple or small. We love conversation starters

[mrs-songbird]

Thank you for being so welcoming and honest. I am glad to know others have struggled with what I thought was a “simple” thing like a name. I will keep reading and be content with the general names until we find the ones that fit. Thanks again!!

[bpauli16@yahoo.com]

Welcome to Husdom. The others have given great advice. I had a very difficult time with a name as well so I feel your frustration. When you find one though you will know it like an ah ha moment.