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Mr. Ray's Intro
Hi, my wife/sub and I are just getting into a more dom/sub relationship. I know little to nothing about it yet. I don’t even know if this is the classification of what we are or want to become. We’ve been married for almost 10 years and have been completely faithful to each other. We are new to this but interested and open to most things. For a “normal” sex life, we are on the more risky side but for the dom/sub lifestyle, we are very vanilla. We have children and do not take anything outside of the bedroom. We keep everything sexual in the bedroom but we’ve just started integrating our bedroom attitudes in our everyday life to a certain extent and we love it. I’m really looking for information/ideas/suggestions. Thanks!
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3 Replies
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Mr. Ray,
Welcome!!!
As a newer Dom myself, this is what I have noticed.
When it comes to “taking it in public”, the little things really matter – like your hand on the back of her neck or the small of her back – a sexy whisper in her ear of the things you might have in mind for her later – a strong grip as you hold her hand – even a little tap on her backside, while others MAY be able to see.
The most important part of the public side of D/s for me, has been the fact that our thoughts and feelings are the same, its a very special connection, which really magnify the LITTLE things that you do. These are things you may have done in the past, but they mean a lot more with the correct mindset.
Hope this helps,
Bellas Dom -
Mr Ray,
Welcome aboard!
You have found the right place for support throughout your new journey.
I don’t even know if this is the classification of what we are or want to become.
You will find that there are several different dynamics that are represented here within husDOM.
The transition out of the bedroom and into your everyday life tends to be a natural transition for most. LK and I began as bedroom only and then decided that we wanted more. We have children as well and have develop our own 24/7 dynamic that would go mostly undetected by most.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Mr. Ray,
Echoing Mr. Foxes statement, the transition to 24/7 is a very natural progression once you find what works for you. my darling girl and I went straight to 24/7 and accounting for the bumps, have not looked back. It has become who we are and the love it has opened up for us is beyond description.
I like Bellas Dom thoughts about the little things in public. I am extremely attentive to my darling girl in public and the simple act of not opening doors for herself to walking between her and the street to holding her entire hand within mine when we walk are constant reminders to us both of our dynamic.
As time passes you will find what works for you both. I encourage you to read Mr. Foxes post on Downtime. This open communication is wonderful as you explore and develop this dynamic between the two of you.
Loving Liege
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