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Learning to Dom
Quick backstory, because I feel it’s very relevant to everything in my life right now.
I met my wife (LB) 2 years ago, we dated and got engaged very quickly. We talked about D/s from our first date, she was interested in being a submissive. I had a fantasy about what it would be like to be a dom.
Even though she shared her interest with me early on, I never actually brought it into our relationship. I was too weak. I had a porn addiction too and even though I told LB I had stopped looking at porn I was still doing it.
We got married in February. By the end of July instead of just looking at porn, I was talking to other submissives online. Even though my wife wanted to try a D/s relationship, I wasn’t willing to act on my dom fantasies with her. Most of what I thought was dominance was just stupid porn tropes, and I was the worst kind of online dom.
She caught me cheating online in August and since then we have had to work through a lot of issues from the damage I caused by breaking our wedding vows. Even though I didn’t deserve it, she stayed with me.
I have recognized that my failure to act as a man nearly destroyed our relationship. I love LB so very much and I am working to repair the damage.
We started the D/s relationship dynamic in August and I have found that I know almost NOTHING about being a real Dom. I am eager to learn. I failed LB once, I don’t want to let her down again.
We have moved pretty smoothly into a Daddy Dom style of relationship, but LB has complained multiple times that I am not a very good Dom, but I am a good Caregiver. She wants me to be a better Dom, so I need to learn how to develop my dominant side for her. I would do anything for her.
So that is why I am here, and I am very hopeful that I can learn from some of you who have much more experience and wisdom than I do.
Thank you in advance for your help and advice!
– Andrew
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