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Just Beginning
Hello Everyone,
I am new to both the D/s-M lifestyle and the husDOM community. I look forward to meeting everyone here and learning how to grow and better myself in my new Dominant role.
My lady (@slaveAngel on subMrs) and I have been together for nearly 20 years now. We met at the ages of 14 and 15, respectively. Our relationship, like any, has had its ups and downs. But, we have always worked things out. We even survived 7 years of me drowning in alcohol. She is the best woman that I could have ever asked for.
What I somewhat knew, and never fully understood, was that she was living as a sole submissive all that time. She had tried to broach the subject with me and I reacted negatively, citing my own distaste for the lifestyle. A lifestyle that I only knew based on what you see on the internet.
Well, about a week ago, she brought it to me again, and asked me to at least read some of the content here on husDOM before I made a decision. Now that I’ve been sober for two years, my head is clear, and our relationship is in a better place, I really gave it some thought. I read some of Mr. Fox’s archived posts and really wrapped my head around the whole thing. When I went back to her, it was with an open heart and an open mind. We played around that night, dancing and flirting with the D/s roles, and we had a BLAST! Two days later, she came to me on her knees, looked me in the eyes and asked me to be her Sir (read: Master but, we prefer the titles Sir and lady). My heart melted. I could never say no to her beautiful brown eyes staring up at me. I said yes and we have not looked back. We have been happier in our marriage, and more comfortable in our skins than ever before.
My only concern is that I am so new to this lifestyle while she has been researching it and yearning for it for years. But, I think we may have that under control. For the next 90 days I am in training. When we go into our bedroom, the roles reverse so that she can show me how she wants to be dominated. I definitely don’t prefer to be submissive but I would do anything for her. I am curious though, is this an appropriate approach to take as we begin our new lives together? Has any other Dominant here ever taken this approach?
Sorry for the long post but, I wanted everyone to have a clear understanding of where I am in my journey. And I wanted to make it known that, despite my newness in this role, I am passionate about it and eager to learn. My lady deserves to serve the best Sir that I can be, and I believe that the community here can help to foster that.
Thank you Mr. Fox for bringing this site online and providing such a helpful and classy resource. Thank you to everyone else for reading.
Respectfully,
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4 Replies
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MasterofAngels,
Welcome to husDOM, I am curious to find out how your training and journey progresses. Please keep us updated.
Mr. K sir
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MasterOfAngels,
Christmas eve what a magical time. Just wanted to drop in and see how your journey was going now that you are over your first 30 days into your 90 day training. I have not talked to you in chat and was curious if you were finding your way around the site easily enough and if you minded sharing more about your journey so far?
Highest Regards,
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GreyWolf,
Christmas Eve definitely was magical for me and my lady. We spent the evening wrapping gifts for the children, reminiscing about the past, and then unwrapping each other. It was wonderful. Then, I had the pleasure of having my lady sitting at my feet while the children opened their presents Christmas morning. We haven’t yet decided to publicize our dynamic but, I felt that her sitting at my feet (rather than kneeling) was innocuous enough for the vanilla crowd but satisfying enough for the two of us. And it certainly was.
Our dynamic and the training, ebb and flow just like many things. We have great days when everything just clicks. But, of course, we have some less spectacular days when things seem more difficult or stressful. Throughout it all we have maintained open communication and found happiness, even in the struggles.
We spoke about those struggles recently. What we came to find is that, we both have some learning and growth ahead of us. But more importantly, that this dynamic is who we are. We are both invested in making it the best that it can be. I’m sure that more struggles will come. But, having that commitment established gives us both confidence in our abilities to overcome whatever adversity we may face.
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MasterOfAngels,
My best wishes for the continued growth of you both.I look forward to hearing how you progress over time…and yes…being invested along with open communication will help you overcome any and all adversities!
Take Care!
Mr. B
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