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Introduction
Greetings everyone. My ls and I started this journey about 8 months ago and I only recently found this site as I was searching for somewhere to get more relevant advice and guidance. I wish I had found it earlier!
It has been amazing to me to see how many have had such similar experiences. We’ve been married now for 20 years and she actually approached me about starting this years ago but I didn’t understand what she was asking for or needed. In hindsight, we should have talked more about it but that just didn’t happen. Fast forward and she was becoming visibly unhappy in our relationship and we were fighting more and I couldn’t figure out why. She finally brought up again that she needed me to take a more Dominant role. She stated that she wasn’t looking for 24/7 but more of a bedroom D/s dynamic. I had a second chance and jumped right in. That change has made all the difference as we are finally communicating more and better than we ever have and it has truly saved our marriage.
That communication led me to discover that she actually responds better and craves when I take a more Dominant role all the time and not just in the bedroom. We don’t have a contract or any rituals right now, though I’m slowly trying to determine if either of these are needed for us and determine exactly how much more she needs. I’m open to advice on this from the group! I was able to get her to join subMrs.com but she is very private and hasn’t been very active. I’m trying to encourage and nudge her to spend some time there. If it is half as helpful as this site has been, I think it will only help to build the solid foundation that we need.
Thanks to this site though, I was able to plan and execute our first full scene that wasn’t spontaneous and it was a huge success! I look forward to discussing and learning more!
All the best,
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4 Replies
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Jdh,
You will find there are a lot of stories jjust like yours here. This is my second chance as well and I am making the most of it. I look forward to chatting with you sometime. Also what is your subscription name on submrs, I’m sure a lot of our subs will be happy to greet her if they see her on.
Mr. K sir
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Mr. K sir,
Thank you, I look forward to chatting some time as well. My sub’s login is blaze06 and I, and I’m sure she, would appreciate any greetings provided to her!
Jdh
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Welcome to husDom jdh, many things here to research and learn.
My wench and I will be married 44 years in August and in the D/s-M for about 4 years now. We are closer and communicate more now then ever before.
We also found the D/s in the bedroom soon carried over to other parts of our marriage.
It is a great journey and we are learning more all the time
Continue to encourage your sub to become active on lk’s site if only to join the chats and follow the subs as they chat.
Again welcome to husDomBuck
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Update to my post above, my wife now has a name she likes and changed it on subMrs, which she is really enjoying btw. She can be found there as Honu.
All the best,
Jdh
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