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Introduction
Hello & salutations fellows of the Dominant community.
With the help of my devoted submissive, we have recently discovered our D/s dynamic. My wife has always desired submission, but felt unable to communicate that to me until a few months ago. I on the other hand never realized that I was sexually Dominant, and we spent 15 years going through the “vanilla” motions. We now enjoy healthy rough sex several times a week, a sharp contrast to our previous dreary vanilla routine.
That being said, I’ve been told that I have been extremely satisfying my sub sexually, however she desires true submission. Freedom without thought; to be able to “let go”, and give up all control. This is where I find I am lost. I often draw a blank during our scenes, and resort to rough physical play versus mental Dominance. I guess that aspect isn’t coming to me as naturally as I had hoped.
Therefore, I am grateful and excited to have found this community; and I hope that I will be able to find the information, and advice I am looking for.Regards,
Mr. Daddy
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2 Replies
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Welcome to HusDom Mr. Daddy!
Congratulations on discovering your D/s-M dynamic and starting your journey with your sub. If you haven’t already, one of the best places to start is to read the ‘Where to begin” drop down menu content at the top of the page. There is a wealth of information here that helps even the most experienced ground their thoughts and relationship to establish goals and perspective.
Based on your comments about taking your bedroom play to another level with more mental control, physical control and instruction, etc. I would highly recommend reading the Blogs. Start at the top and work your way in! There are excellent articles ranging from how to manage and setup a scene to controlling your sub with voice commands through out your scene. The blogs also share personal stories from Mr. Fox on key learnings during scenes, how to take care of your sub afterwards, getting feedback, and so much more. I think you will be very happy with that material.
I would also recommend that your sub checkout subMrs if she hasn’t already. It is a community run by Mr. Fox’s lk and has been a wealth of support and information for my parapluie. It has been a win-win for our dynamic to say the least.
Welcome to the community and congratulations on your dynamic taking off!
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Thanks Mr. G8tr, I have indeed begun reading through the forum. I find this all very fascinating.
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