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Introduction
My wife (Lina) and I have been together for over 20 years and have dabbled in BDSM play for many of those, but I never realized the level of her interest. Over the past few years I have felt that we were growing apart and I have become frustrated as I have always had to initiate sex, and when asking her what she wanted her response was often “I don’t know”.
Outside the bedroom we have struggled to find a perfect 50/50 split, and with children, at times we have found ourselves at odds with each other’s decisions.
About a month ago we started discussing our relationship and she started talking about her interest in exploring D/s. As seems to be the case of many of those on this site, I never considered a relationship where my wife was subservient to me, it’s just not what we grow up considering.
I have always loved my dear Lina deeply and even with the bumps and hurdles over the years, I wanted to find a way to navigate all of these concerns, so I jumped in and tried to find more information. HusDom has been a great place to learn and grow. I am eager to learn as much as possible to expand my ability to be an effective Dom.
Realizing that we have only been doing this for a month, I don’t think I have ever felt so close. This site has made me recognize the importance of open and honest conversation. And the dynamic has allowed us to fall into non-competing roles within the household.
I am very eager to learn from those on this site.
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1 Reply
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Marsh,
Welcome aboard,
Outside the bedroom we have struggled to find a perfect 50/50 split
I can totally relate to this statement as this was the root to many of our disagreements.
And the dynamic has allowed us to fall into non-competing roles within the household.
What a great way to put it. ‘Non competing roles’. That is the way that I often felt in my marriage prior to D/s. I felt as though we were constantly jockeying for position.
Like many members here on husDOM, we have much in common.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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