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Introducing Sir.Gentleman
Hi all,
I am a 45 year old Dutch male, living in the Netherlands. I am a self employed outsourcing and vendor management consultant. I have a healthy interest in classic gentlemen’s fashion and etiquette. I also have an unhealthy interest in Alfa Romeo’s. I say unhealthy, since my cars are eating a fair share of my budget.
I have been in 2 long term relationships, one of which was a marriage. I was very dominant during the last relationship, yet the way I handled my dominant feelings resulted in a sexless relationship for the last 2 years.
After some “meandering” for two years, during which I met various women, I ran into Angel (not her real name), the most beautiful woman and intense and gentle soul I have ever met. We have entered what is now a LAT relationship, yet I have never felt so “married” in my life. We feel endless love and commitment towards each other.
I have been searching for my sexual identity since university and when I was 34 I let my dominance take control. Fueled by fantasies and porn, I took without waiting for what was given. It was overwhelming for my partner at that time, bordering on rape. I feel ashamed for the person I was then and I am glad that I have learned how to channel my feelings of domination. After the break up, I met many women who, inspired by the 50 shades books/movie, were willing to submit. It never panned out like either of us hoped. They weren’t true submissives and I am not the twisted individual depicted in the books.
When I met Angel and told her a relationship with me would be a D/s relationship, she asked me “are you going to hurt me?” My answer was “I demand that you follow my instructions, after setting mutual boundaries. If you do not obey, I will discipline you within the limits of those boundaries.” Her immediate response was “As long as you don’t hit me.” and that was our first boundary set.
Our relationship has grown a lot since then. She will wear a collar when I tell her to, but I must admit she likes to hide it under a turtleneck when she goes to work. She will take nearly any kind of bondage and fetish wear. Our bondage style is mainly steel, sometimes leather and seldom rope. I’m just not the knotty guy… She sexually pleases me to no end and we are slowly progressing to anal play. The latter is a true gift, since she specifically ruled out anything anal when I told her it was one of my major turn ons.
In return, I am a very caring Dominant. I will wash her before sex and am very observant to her body language during, since she tends to be a rather quiet sub, hesitant of using safewords where I know she wants to. Afterwards, I tend to her body as if it were my own. She often says she has never felt so safe and free as now, with me. My care doesn’t stop in the bedroom. She knows I will make sure she and her daughters are protected and provided for.
Our relationship feels balanced and incredibly respectful and I’d be lost without her, which is what she says about me too.
With kindest regards,
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It sounds like you have found a good place in your life. Welcome to HusDOM. I look forward to chatting with you in the future.
A great place to begin here is to read Mr Fox’s blogs, oldest to new.
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