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Intro
I am very new to the official Dom/Sub lifestyle. Although Dominant by nature now being one with a written contract with my 2nd wife is amazing.
She said saw this in me for years, however having the official conversation on night that started us down this path was the key to her letting go and wanting in. I do believe I used the words respect, protect and trust several times throughout.
When that conversation was done she said that she wished that we had, had this a few years prior.
I’ve much to learn for sure. The confidence is there when I speak and act but doing so properly and with everyone’s well-being in mind will be key to being a good Dom for my Submissive.
Exciting time for us – yes 🙂
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DocDom,
Welcome to husDom!
Between the blog, the forums, and the chat there is a ton of valuable knowledge here! The path you have chosen is full of love, excitement, and a lot of challenges. There will be tough times but you have to work through them and husDom is here to help. My darling khaleesi and I are still new to the lifestyle and we have learned so much from the sites that Mr. Fox and lk have created. I look forward to chatting with you!
All the Best,
Master_Khal
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As am I Master_Khal.
I am very happy to have found this forum. As of last night I have named my DW – Scarlet. The talks and misunderstanding are being worked through. She really does not know her roll but is eager to find the path. That is where training comes in routines. I also sent her the link to the female site suggested in the welcome email.
My wife is 100% German (born and raised/Blond and Blue), and in the real world is not very submissive at all, however to me that is a very different story. I actually have a male friend that happens to be a sub that asked a few years back to sub for her. Funny how things change.
I wish I had time to chat today but I am in the military and have some 4th of July events to attend so my sweet Scarlet and I must be off.
I look forward to chatting with you all.
Thank you
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DocDom,
You have just embarked on an exciting journey with your scarlet. From reading your introduction it appears as though you have the right idea about what makes a good Dominant.
I look forward to learning more about you and your journey.
Best wishes,
Mr. Fox
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I am spending my time reading through other posts that could assist us in this journey. To officially do it with her is remarkable. I have learned that it’s not all about what one thinks it’s all about.
When someone hears about this lifestyle they think canes, discipline, kneeling and acts of slavery. If they only knew the respect and love involved in this arrangement they would be totally surprised.
We have also taken this journey into the other aspect of our lives as well in so far as day to day goings on. There is a “Christian” side to a submissive wife (Google it) that lends itself the Dom basically being the head if the house in all matters at all times. I don’t completely dominate but again by nature I am a Dom so it’s natural. I completely respect my dear Scarlet. An intelligent woman, that said just yesterday she said to me while kneeling and…” I completely give myself and trust to you as my Dom – I am your submissive. Now what she was exactly doing at that moment I’ll leave that up to your imagination, but it was fun (for both of us).
Doc
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Doc,
I completely agree with you that most people do not understand what a respectful and loving Dominance and submission relationship is really about, especially a married or LTR dynamic.
It is based on love and respect and nurtured by the unselfishness of each partner to bring the satisfaction of the other before their own.
There are many dynamics to the lifestyle and some are certainly based directly from Christianity.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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