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Hey look! An Introduction!
Hello fellow husDOMs (trademark symbol). My wife, River, and I are a year or so into BDSM play and about 3 months into becoming a committed D/s-M couple. I never expected my marriage to be anything like this. I am enjoying the new dynamic, but in many ways I’m still way out of my element, so I’m grateful to everyone who makes this site what it is. For those interested, this is our story.
For twelve years we lived an interesting but relatively normal married life; finished college, bought a house, went to church, had kids, and pretty much the usual stuff all the older folks I work with did during their FIRST marriage. Red flag. We both knew the modern American same-roles marriage does not work for many and would not work for us. With that honest admission we built a stronger marriage based on giving each other what we needed, not deserved. That was probably enough to sustain our marriage for a lifetime, but deep down we both craved more.
Last year River started to change. She got herself in shape, her libido spiked, and she developed a new obsession with spanking. No complaints from me, but where was this going? I caught her reading spanking stories constantly. Soon after she was asking me to show her how to find spanking porn. Still no complaints. She couldn’t explain why she was suddenly obsessed because she didn’t know. This was new territory for me. How could I understand what she needs if she didn’t even know? In the meantime, I just enjoyed the best sex of my life with an insatiable MILF.
I read whatever I could find about women who enjoy being spanked. I paid attention to her favorite stories and videos. Then while looking up something sexy to do for a date night, I found out we had a local teaching dungeon.
“Teaching dungeon”
“Whaaaaaat?”
“Yeah I have no idea but let’s try it.” We meet cool people, not normal, but not creepy either. They teach us how to have more fun in the bedroom.
Later I tell an old college friend we go to a BDSM dungeon. He’s only a little surprised and tells me he’s been in the lifestyle for ten years and all of the girlfriends I met have been a submissives, including his new wife. Soon we got to go on a trip with them and my wife saw what it’s like to be submissive 24/7. I thought this would always be an in-the-bedroom thing for us, but River surprised me when she said she wanted to be 24/7 just like our friends.
Well maybe not just like them. We have kids, and most of our friends are from church, so she can’t spend all day with her nipples on display for me around the house. She can’t wear a collar and kneel at my feet when I snap my fingers, at least before bedtime. Instead we’ve adapted what we can to fit into our life. She wears a bracelet instead of a collar that I put on her every morning. I choose her underwear everyday. She doesn’t get spanked immediately for disobedience, but she gets pen marks on her wrist to be spanked for later. There are certain things she must ask permission to do. I like when she is out with friends and has to call me to ask if she can have a drink. Some of them know why.
That’s where we are right now. I feel more confident most days, and she is in a much better mood even when life gets crazy. There have been a few ups and downs, but we’re learning. That’s why I’m here, and I look forward to learning from all of you.
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9 Replies
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I absolutely love this story. Yhank you for sharing.
I love to spank cs now days. But when I hear the word spankinh, my inner little boy Monty Python fan screams out “me first , me first!”
Haha
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@Tex Between that and the Hitchhiker’s pic, I can tell we’re going to get along quite well.
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Great intro story Rocky, thanks for sharing. Welcome to the site. Looking forward to seeing how things unfold for the two of you. Chat soon!
-Mr.
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Welcome, Rocky-we’re in a similar position (unable to wear an actual collar). I bought her a lock pendant to substitute (my avatar is my darlin wearing her lock) and a bracelet with a lock on it as well. Glad you found a work around that keeps the D/s dynamic going as a reminder during the day!
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Her old one was falling apart, so her newer and better bracelet should be here any day. Putting it on her every morning is my favorite ritual.
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I’m glad you enjoyed our story so far. I’m looking forward to living the next chapter.
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Rocky,
Welcome Aboard!
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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Rocky,
Great Post.
Yours,
Boris
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Really enjoyed your post sounds very exciting!!!
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