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Hello from YBD
Hello there chaps!
I have already spoke briefly to a couple of you on here and spoke in another forum but I would like to formally introduce myself and get to know you gentleman.
I am a 20 something trucker from Britain with a partner of 6 years and with 1 child and one due any minute.
We are very happy couple with unquestionable trust and honesty in our relationship. Due to me being a massive pervert we’ve ventured down alot of sexual paths and although they’ve all been enjoyable I’ve never felt a way to truly satisfy my sexual needs. This has always confused me because I love my fiance very much, I find her incredibly physically attractive and we are the best of friends. I knew the problem was that my sexual satisfaction comes as much from mental stimulation as it does the physical act and i knew I needed a life that combined being the hard working family man I am with the deep dark deviant side of me seemlessly. I didnt want to hurt anyone nor did I want to jeopardise my amazing relationship I just wanted the incredible connection with the woman I love that I crave.
Then whilst researching I came across the 24/7 d/s lifestyle and i jumped to the edge of my seat! This was what I had been looking for, this was the life I needed. I researched more and more, the whole time comparing this dynamic to my own relationship and i began to slowly educate my fiance on this lifestyle.
At first she was intimidated and thought what i was suggesting was a life of being abused as my sexual slave. I quickly showed her that this couldn’t be further from the truth and i fed her with lots of information about the submissive lifestyle, to which she was filled with excitement and we discovered that her subconscious self was child like and she looked to me like her daddy so we built on this.We went to through lots of sexual and social ideas and agreed on some rules, sexual activities she would do, punishments, rewards and even wrote up a contract to make it official.
All is going great so far she is changing her usually slack and friend like attitude with me to a respectful daddy loving little girl and I am being stern but fair with her reminding her everytime she forgets to address me correctly etc of the punishment she will recieve.
Sexually she is also doing very well and as she knows it’s one of my weaknesses she has begun pussy stretching training to eventually be able to be fisted with ease. (she deserves so much credit for this as she is 9 months pregnant and in alot of discomfort)
So to summarise our situation right now: we are in agreement of our d/s relationship, we are enforcing the rules and i am trying to implement training/discipline and punishment firmly and fairly but I am going easy on her physically up until she has had our baby and she feels comfortable again.
One thing I’m self debating with alot is wether this is sufficient?
Do I do more to change our every day lives?
Good training ideas for a new submissive?
And maybe some reassurance or critique from experienced Doms that I am doing good or suggest things I should do differently?
Anyway I’ll end it here and anxiously await your comments.
Look forward to getting to know you all and thank you for accepting me into this great platform of discussion for people with similar minds
Regards
YBD
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2 Replies
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DOM,
Thank you very much for your comments.
I have the idea in my head of how I want her to talk, behave and perform I suppose I’m just learning to put it all into action in the respectful way a dominant should.
Also I think for now I’ll have to remain subtle until she gives birth so that I have her full and undivided attention as I don’t want her to to go in half hearted whilst she’s Urrmm how do I say… Pre occupied as this would just cause frustration on both parts.
It would be great to get other Doms personal experiences on training ideas so I could perhaps incorporate them into the ideas I have already. For example what did you do to train your submissive In speech restriction? My dolly currently doesn’t have the best communications skills, she is opinionated and quite disrespectful in some manners of her speech (not necessarily to me) and this is a huge thing I want to change. I would like to make her more thoughtful in her speech and to get her communicating better.
One thing I read on one of the forums here is to ban the word no which encourages her to answer In a more intelligent and less blunt way which sounded like a great idea.
As I say any experiences or opinions would be much appreciated.
Thanks again for your reply DOM
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youngbritishdom,
It sounds as though you and your submissive have already embarked on a wonderful journey into the D/s-M dynamic.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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