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Hello everyone and thank god I found this site
The last week has been incredible. Me and my sub have been married for 18 years and things were amazing at first. Over the years we have always played a little bit with D/s in the bedroom, but nothing much. It was always more like dirty talk/foreplay but never serious. Last week we have ratcheted it up and really have started it as a serious way of life. Not 24/7 but I am hoping things develop, I am noticing her being more submissive everyday. I think the real change has been me. I have always been Dom, but have buried that part of my personality for whatever reason. When I finally took control last week it really opened up not just the sex, but our marriage and communication. We talk more now and have been more honest in the last week than we have ever been.
I do get quite a bit of time to reflect during the day and I have always made a habit of it. As I look back over our marriage and the hard-times/arguments we have had I can see that she was acting out to try to get me into the role she needed. As I floundered around trying to figure out my role I have been trying to find good websites about the lifestyle. I took the advice to develop a contract and checklist of her fantasies and hard no’s. Just this contract and checklist opened up the communication between us to a level I did not think was possible. She has some of the same wants that I do but I was always hesitant to bring it up. I thought I had an honest relationship with my sub before but the difference is incredible.
I feel better than I have in years. I feel like my true personality is finally coming out. I have an extra energy. It is difficult to put into words. I have read several introductions that share a similar story. I thought I was going to be finding my way alone in this. Thank god I found you all.
I directed my sub to sign up for subMrs today.
Thanks and I look forward to chatting and sharing thoughts/ideas
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Master E
I am glad to see that you filled out an introduction. Thank you for sharing your story. I can tell you from personal experience, with this community, you are never alone. Welcome to the community and enjoy the site sir.
Sir Bee
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Welcome to husDom Master E,
Like you Wench and I are in a long term marriage, 5 years ago we became Ds/M and have become much closer and have better communication then all of the previous years. Mr. Fox and LK have put together 2 great sites. There are many Doms on here to learn from and many forums and blogs to read thru. The subMrs site also has the same benefits for our subs.
Feel free to join in on the chats and ask any questions you may have, also check out the calendar at the top for special things that are coming up.
Enjoy your journey
Buck
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Welcome to husDOM, my minx and I have found that our marriage has been dramatically improved as I have stepped in to my role and started to lead her like she has longed for so long. Welcome and I am looking forward to getting to know you in chat and to watch your journey.
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Welcome sir.
I’m generally online, so feel free to hit me up in chat. My Little Peach and I are not far ahead of you, we have only moved out of the bedroom recently to a 24/7 dynamic.
Welcome! If You have any questions don’t hesitate to ask in chat or start a forum post!
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