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Hello
Hi everyone.. New to the group so I guess intro’s are in order. We are a new Don/Sub couple. It all started with a book my wife read, and not long after she realized that she was submissive and wanted to be the girl in the story. She discussed her needs with me, and we have been on the journey ever since. The journey has not come without struggles though, there is very little information for newbies and we don’t live in an area where we can easily get to BDSM events. My wife also struggles with her needs as a submissive and often thinks something is wrong with her for being what she is and needing the Dom/Sub lifestyle. A lot of time has been spent getting her to accept her submissiveness. As for me.. I enjoy being a DOM, but often get lost on exactly the how’s and when’s she needs to be dominated. She will say she only wants to be dominated in the bedroom, but then wants me to make all the decisions for her outside the bedroom.. i.e: What to wear for the day, what to eat etc.. She also kneels for me during the day, and no longer sits on the couch with me, but instead kneels on a pillow at my feet. When I try to discuss that perhaps she is needing more than just being dominated in the bedroom, she gets defensive and says she does not want to be a slave.. Anyhow, we are working through all this stuff on our journey.. Our sec has never been better!! We are excited to find this website as it looks like it could help us answer a lot of questions.. We look forward to hearing from and reading a lot of your posts..Thanks for having us!! Wshrig
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Welcome wshrig,
You have come to the right place. Please go back and read Mr. Fox’s blogs from the beginning. That will be a good start for yourself. If she has not already found it have your sub go LK’s site for subs. She is Mr. Fox’s sub/wife and her site is a great resource of information and subport. https://submrs.com It sounds to me that your wife has already begun her journey as your sub. Possibly she needs to look into the different dynamics there are in D/s-M. My Darling is a little. Our dynamic is DD/lg. Other possible dynamics are M/s(Master/slave), M/p(Master/pet), D/s(Dom/sub), etc…. Every relationship will be different. You will find your dynamic as your journey continues. Research and communication are important.
All the HusDoms here are very helpful and I would encourage you to read past forums and start new ones if you have questions.
My first piece of advice is to take it slow and enjoy your journey.
Good day,
My Darlings Sir
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wshrig,
Welcome aboard!
The beginning of your journey sounds quite similar to my own.
There is definitely a void regarding useful sustainable information in relation to a D/s-M relationship. I along with the help of hundreds of members are addressing this void on a daily basis and I welcome you to join us.
My wife also struggles with her needs as a submissive and often thinks something is wrong with her for being what she is and needing the Dom/Sub lifestyle.
This is a very common issue among submissives and it becomes an obstacle when beginning the journey outside of the bedroom. I believe that if your submissive joins my LK’s website she will discover many other regular woman such as herself.
I enjoy being a DOM, but often get lost on exactly the how’s and when’s she needs to be dominated.
Downtime (link) Downtime is about effective communication between you and your submissive. No one on this website will be able to advise you on what your submissive needs, only she can tell you this.
When I try to discuss that perhaps she is needing more than just being dominated in the bedroom, she gets defensive and says she does not want to be a slave..
Slave (link) There is a difference between a slave and a submissive. Allowing you to be the leader of your relationship or dynamic will not make her a slave. In most cases it enhances the submissive’s confidence and they are actually stronger people after they submit.
If you would ever like to discuss anything in ore detail with me personally you may always contact me directly.
I look forward to learning more about you and your submissive along yuor journey.
Best wishes,
Mr Fox
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