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Hello
25 years marriage. Kids now grandkids. Just about ready to split until she brought up D/s. She had been reading some blogs searching. I about drove off into a ditch. Never knew it. We’ve been in a war the last ten years on who was going to wear the pants.
So here we go. She wants to please. She likes a playful spank. I grew up Southern gentleman, we don’t hit ladies. Getting thru that one slowly. Really reading and learning how to take this to the level we both want. So, enjoying reading these posts on the forum. I’d rather avoid mistakes by learning what to watch out for. Great forum for that here.
The last few days have been great. Vacation next week so we get to keep it going on the road.
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Gsf1961,
Welcome aboard,
LK and I have been married for 25 years as well…
The posts and the forums are designed to do just that; help the husDOM avoid mistakes along his own journey. I am glad to hear that you are enjoying them. Please keep that in mind as you yourself begin your journey and help others by posting some of your experiences that you encounter. The value at husDOM comes from members paying it forward…
Enjoy your vacation and best wishes,
Mr Fox
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So it’s been three weeks since I posted this. Seems like a fucking lifetime. One major speed bump so far but quick recovery.
I was sitting in our back porch after working outside this afternoon. I was sitting in the same spot as I was three years prior when this house was still being mortared up. Nasty dust and debris every. The “last house we will build”. Or “death house” if you prefer. I was thinking three years ago how maybe this house would finally make Baby Doll happy. Truly happy. She had always wanted to live in the country. No neighbors and lots of trees.
But yet after we built the house, happiness was still a fleeting moment bracketed by weeks and months of tension and conflict. We just weren’t getting anywhere.
We over built so our two kids would come home for holidays. One kid is married and making grandsons for me. The other contemplating marriage. But it’s just two of us mostly and a couple of ner do well animals. Lonely. I had my man space in the garage and she had taken over our bedroom as her hideaway.
So three weeks after posting my intro I feel like I’m in a new marriage. My wife suddenly respects me again and shows me the affection I’ve always craved.
How did this happen? She recognized her image desire to be a helper not a driver decision maker. You can skip all the kink and all the rules. It’s simple. We have decided I will lead. She gets to quit worrying and struggling to make decisions. This is D/s in a nutshell to me. The kink and the control in the bedroom are fun, no doubt. But it’s all about the relationship.
Get the relationship right, the crazy sex will follow. This is just my life. Won’t necessarily be yours. Very grateful my wife is a happy sub so far. I’m learning to not try to live up to every story or scene I red her or she reads on submrs.
Not sure where we are headed but we are having fun again in the journey. Peace out.
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Glad the journey has been so transforming. I am always encouraged by your enthusiasm and paassion for life and the lifestyle. Thank you for sharing your journey with the rest of us.
Thanatoi
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Rumblin stumblin fumblin my way along!
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I dug this up as we have been D/s for 6 months now. Humbling to go back and read. I encourage you all t go back and find your Intro post and read it.
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Great posts Tex. I’m so happy for you and curvy. I especially liked your second post where you talked about the simplicity of your D/s. Something every new Dom should hear.
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Check your intro at 6 months Iri. :))
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